As men in his childhood taught him that a “real” man does not let another man impose on him, Victor Rios grew up trying to emulate the version of a man he was led to believe was most true. Years of life slowly eroded that belief and exposed the realities of masculinity and the effect it can have on both men and women. Now, he examines how dismantling that belief that a man needs to be tough, angry and violent to command respect in others can positively change both them and those around them.