There's a story of mine that I've told about a million different times, and it goes a little something like this. When I was ten, my family and I packed up our entire lives into large suitcases and dragged them across the Pacific to a foreign land called Canada. I was put in a school where I was the only Asian kid in my grade and I got teased for my broken English, Asian features and funny-smelling ethnic lunches. The racism was a real doozy. But don’t feel bad. Through the magical healing powers of extracurricular activities and pure perseverance, I stand before you today, a new woman, healthy, healed and extremely employable. You wouldn’t even be able to tell from just looking at me that I was once the weird little immigrant girl who begged her mom to pack PB&J sandwiches so she wouldn’t have to eat lunch alone in the bathroom. This is a story that I’ve told in academic essays, job interviews, and even in the very application that got me into this fine university. It's also a story that, despite all of its truth, I've come to hate. Now, this is a story that I don't have copyright claim over. It’s one that continues to be regurgitated by immigrant kids all across the country to be served on a silver platter to prestigious universities, who chew these stories and spit out acceptance letters in return. The contents of the story may change. Instead of a difficult immigration experience, it might be the death of a loved one, a chronic illness or a racist encounter. But what remains constant is the moral. A bad thing happened to me, but it made me a good person. This is part of the larger phenomenon that I'm here to talk about today, the overwhelming pressure being put on high school students to write about their deepest traumas in their college applications with the hopes that they seem resilient and interesting enough to be given a spot. I believe that these are not only bad metrics by which to evaluate applicants, but also incredibly harmful to the storyteller themselves and risks reinforcing existing inequities in higher education. But first, why do students choose to tell these stories in the first place? Well, because emissions data is so opaque and mystified, this phenomenon can’t really be captured by cold hard statistics. Rather the evidence for it can be found in forums like Reddit, admissions blogs and personal anecdotes, all of which applicants consult religiously while forming their applications. Take, for example, this Reddit thread where the user says, I think the more involved and engrossed I get with college admissions processes, I become worse of a person. I spoke to one of my seniors about their college application process, and they told me about how they had to watch both their parents die due to COVID. The first thing that came to mind was Dang, I bet those made good admissions essays. Then my moral conscience kicked in and I extended my sympathies. There’s also pressure that’s being amplified by nations councilors themselves, who play a huge role in influencing what applicants decide to write about. Take, for example, this tip from the MIT admissions blog, where the author compares two different introductions for a potential essay. The first one reads, I’m honored to apply for the Master of Library Science Program at the University of Okoboji. For as long as I can remember, I’ve had a love affair with books. Since I was 11, I’ve wanted to be a librarian. The second introduction reads, When I was 11, my great Aunt Gretchen passed away and left me something that changed my life, a library of about 5000 books. Some of my best days were spent arranging and reading her books. Since then, I've wanted to become a librarian. The author notes that the second introduction is much more striking and leaves a much better impression. Consider another tip from college scguide.com, where he advises students to get personal. He says weirdly including painful memories, and what you learn from them usually helps a personal statement meet the goals of a college application essay. You come off as humble, accessible, likable, and mature. Confessions from admissions officers themselves can also be telling. Aya Waller-Bey, a former admissions officer from Georgetown University, said in a Forbes article that within months on the job, I saw how the personal statements of black and other racially minority students differed from those of white applicants. Black students highlighted resilience through stories of survival, while their counterparts wrote casual essays about service abroad and sporting championships. Black students shared their pain. White students shared their passions. Now, lastly, and perhaps the least reliable source is my own life. I remember feeling this way when I was applying to universities. Like I had no other choice. No other experiences worthy of mentioning. And no other merit beyond the fact that I had thrived despite what I'd gone through. I even remember worrying that my tale wouldn’t be harrowing enough, after hearing from a counselor that writing about immigration has become a bit of a cliche because of how overused it is. So what's the university's role in all of this? And why are these stories even harmful to begin with? Well, I believe that using your college application essay to discuss your trauma actually doesn't help you process it. There are a couple of different reasons why. First, writing about a difficult experience is, as you may have guessed, difficult. Not only do you have to relive the event itself, but you also have to actively suppress any negative emotions that arise during the process. That kind of emotional labor can be taxing for anybody, but perhaps especially so for these young applicants who haven’t had enough time on this world to process the terrible things that have happened to them. For many students, the college essay is also the first time that they’re discussing these traumatic experiences. And for that space to be one in which they’re confessing to a faceless stranger, who gets to make the most consequential decision of their adolescent life imposes an incredibly heavy psychological burden. I mean, imagine if you walked into your therapy appointment and your therapist tells you that they’re not going to respond to anything you tell them except with a rejection or acceptance email sent months later, and also that whatever you tell them would determine the trajectory of your entire academic and professional career. Hard to imagine that being therapeutic. Secondly, the trauma essay makes one assumption that is extremely problematic and untrue that the writer is not only far enough removed from whatever happened to them, but also benefited from it in some way in the form of valuable character development. But the inconvenient truth about trauma is that it’s not always the learning opportunity through which you can gain more confidence or develop better time management skills. Sometimes it’s just a sucky thing that really sucks. And asking students to prove how they turn their pain into progress ignores this truth and falls prey to the toxic positivity narrative that everything happens for a reason, ignoring the very valid resentment and anger that many victims still feel. Lastly, the things we write aren't just informed by your experiences. They shape how we view those experiences as well. And if we’re writing about our trauma to prove to admissions officer that we are worthy of a decent education, then it becomes necessary to sanitize our pain, to make it marketable and strategic, to scrub away all the suffering. So all that's left is what will fit into the narrow margins of what is palatable. And this is what I see as being the fundamental contradiction at the heart of the trauma essay. It seems to give the writer free rein of vulnerability, but actually leave them very little room to be vulnerable. Your story has to be just sad enough that it gained sympathy, but not so sad that it makes you seem beyond help. Just critical enough to inspire change, but not so much that it actually criticizes systemic structures. Just honest enough to seem real, but not so unfiltered that it creates discomfort. The protagonist also overcomes whatever struggle they’re facing by the end of the 500 word count, instilling the reader with a sense of optimism that despite our deeply unequal society, it is possible to rise through the ranks and overcome all the isms. This, of course, is not the reality of our world today. And for me, this looked like settling for the familiar story of a stinky lunch, one that’s been told so many times that it’s devoid of any real meaning. Instead of talking about the ongoing social and political disenfranchisement of immigrants, the permanent loss of cultural identity that I suffered, or the sense of disbelonging that still haunts me every time I make a grammar mistake or someone mispronounces my name. These are all struggles that never really go away but are carefully tucked away in my essay because they don’t fit the linear narrative that is being constructed. But how are universities to blame for all of this? I mean, they never explicitly asked students to trauma dump in their essays, and many admissions experts have actually come out and discouraged discussing explicit trauma in essays. However, I still don’t think that universities are blameless. The reason why the trauma essay is so ubiquitous is because it seems to be working. Anne Trubek, who helped low-income high school students at Oberlin College, write their essays, expresses the ethical dilemma that she faces. By pushing students to reveal their horror stories, I risk taking away their dignity, but by not pushing, I could be hindering their chances of getting into their dream school. Whether trauma essays and acceptance letters are actually causally correlated or in part is impossible to tell from the outside. So this could all just be speculation and myth. But in failing to resolutely clear up the speculation and myths about whether trauma essays are rewarded or discouraged, universities are indirectly enabling the rise of the trauma essay and all of its harmful implications. So what are they to do about all of this? Well, first of all, I think that this is a problem that goes much deeper than individual universities and even perhaps the institution of higher education itself. It’s rooted in the cultural obsession with appropriating trauma and making it consumable, as well as the systemic tendency to tokenize oppressed people and their experiences. But there are still things that universities can do to make things better. First, they can be more transparent about their admissions guidelines. If it’s really true that they don’t want to reward trauma storytelling just for the sake of it, then they should be more forthcoming about this expectation. They could also restructure their props to avoid putting pressure on students to talk about past hardships and adversities and instead refocus prompts to ask students about their goals for the future and their academic interests. Secondly, admissions counselors should be trauma informed and trained in working with BIPOC folk. As the unofficial gatekeepers to the secrets of getting into your dream college, they should wield their power responsibly and not pressure students to talk about traumatic experiences that they’re not yet ready to talk about. Lastly and this one’s for anyone who is actually applying to a post-secondary institutions sometime soon. Remember that you are more than the bad things that happen to you. I know that when it seems like every other classmate of yours is writing an essay that could be adapted for an HBO original drama that you may feel like your experiences are not worth talking about. But I promise that they are. You just have to find your voice and use it. Now, as much as I don’t want to live that nail bitingly stressful time of my life ever again, I can’t help but wonder, what would I have written about if I got the chance to apply to UBC again. This time, absent the pressure to strategically use my immigrant background to gain sympathy point. Maybe I would have written about how I overcame my fear of public speaking and became comfortable with being the loudest voice in the room. Or I could have written about watching trashy reality television is what first sparked my interest in political science. Or maybe I still would have written about my immigrant story because that was a big part of my life journey and still impacts me to this day. But I would have done it on my own terms. Instead of being written as a one-dimensional, trauma-turned-triumph trauma drama, I would have been able to tell a story that actually reflects who I am today and acknowledge the fact that my journey is ongoing and it doesn’t begin or end with my racial identity. This is the kind of ownership that I wish for everyone to one day have over their story. And now it’s up for universities to decide whether they get to tell it. Thank you.