I have a vision for each one of you, and the vision I have for you is that when you wake up in the morning, your blood is singing at the thought of being who you are and doing what you do; that as you go through the day, you can literally sink to your knees in gratitude at the tremendous good fortune that's been bestowed on you; that as you go through the day, you become radiantly alive several times. And if your life isn't like that, I'd like to humbly suggest that you're wasting your life. A life is too short to be wasted.
Imam viziju za svakog od vas, a vizija koju imam je da, kada se probudite ujutru, vaša krv peva na pomisao da ste ono što jeste i radite ono što radite; da, dok nastavljate sa danom, možete bukvalno da padnete na kolena iz zahvalnosti zbog ogromne sreće koja vam je darovana; da, dok nastavljate sa danom, postanete blistavo živahni nekoliko puta. Ako vaš život nije takav, skromno bih ukazao na to da traćite svoj život. Život je suviše kratak da bi se uludo trošio.
So what I propose to do in the next 17 minutes -- I've used up one minute already -- is to give you a set of powerful tools which can get you started on being there. Is that of interest to you?
Zato predlažem da vam u narednih 17 minuta, a već sam iskoristio jedan minut, iznesem skup moćnih alatki pomoću kojih možete postići taj cilj. Da li vas to zanima?
Audience: Yes.
Publika: Da.
Srikumar Rao: OK.
Šrikumar Rao: U redu.
This is a conference on happiness, but even if it wasn't a conference on happiness, would it be right if I said that in some way, shape, fashion or form, you're devoting your entire life to being happy? Everything you do -- your job, family, children, relationships, whatever -- is a quest for happiness. Correct?
Ovo je konferencija o sreći, ali čak i da nije konferencija o sreći, da li bi bilo ispravno kada bih rekao da, nekako, na neki način, u nekom vidu ili obliku, ceo svoj život posvećujete tome da budete srećni? Sve što radite - vaš posao, porodica, deca, odnosi, šta god - potraga je za srećom. Zar ne?
I'd like you to think about the following: What do you have to get in order to be happy? We're just going to spend a minute on this. What do you have to get in order to be happy?
Hteo bih da razmislite o sledećem. Šta je potrebno da dobijete da biste bili srećni? Posvetićemo samo minut ovome. Šta vam je potrebno da biste bili srećni?
Anybody, quick?
Bilo ko, na brzinu?
When I conduct this experiment, a bunch of stuff comes up: vast wealth, trophy spouse, good health, lots of travel, time, etc, etc, etc. Right now, if you were to think about it, you probably have a list of, "Here's what I need to get in order to be happy." I would like you to consider this: anything that you can get -- let me repeat that -- anything you can get, you can un-get. Is that correct? So, vast wealth can make you happy. Vast wealth can disappear tomorrow. A number of people in the financial sector have discovered this already. So whatever you get that can make you happy can go away. Where does that leave you? Not a very nice place, right?
Kada sprovodim ovaj eksperiment, gomila stvari proizađe: ogromno bogatstvo, supružnik koji je premija, dobro zdravlje, mnogo putovanja, vremena itd. U ovom trenutku, kada biste razmislili o tome, verovatno imate spisak stvari koje su vam potrebne da biste bili srećni. Hteo bih da razmotrite sledeće. Bilo šta što možete da steknete - da ponovim to - bilo šta što steknete, može da više ne bude vaše. Da li je to tačno? Dakle, veliko bogatstvo vas može usrećiti. Veliko bogatstvo može sutradan nestati. Veliki broj ljudi u sektoru finansija to je već otkrio. Dakle, sve što steknete, a što vas čini srećnima, može nestati. Na čemu ste onda? Ne baš u sjajnoj poziciji, zar ne?
I have a different proposition to suggest to you. What I have to suggest to you is that there is nothing that you have to get, do or be in order to be happy. Let me repeat that: there is nothing that you have to get, do or be in order to be happy. In fact, happiness is your innate nature. It is hardwired into you. It is part of your DNA. You cannot not be happy.
Imam drugačiji predlog za vas. Ono na šta imam da vam ukažem je da ne postoji ništa što morate da dobijete, uradite ili budete da biste bili srećni. Da ponovim, ne postoji ništa što morate da dobijete, uradite ili budete da biste bili srećni. Zapravo, sreća je u vašoj unutrašnjoj prirodi. Ugrađena je u vas. Deo je vaše DNK. Ne možete da ne budete srećni.
Now, all of you are very polite, and in some of the other forums I speak in, such as top business schools, they're not so polite. And invariably, somebody articulates what many of you are thinking, which is: "If happiness is my innate nature, how come I am not experiencing it? How come I am experiencing my life sucks?"
E, sad, vi ste vrlo pristojni, a na nekim drugim okupljanjima na kojima govorim, kao što su vrhunske škole poslovanja, nisu baš tako pristojni. Neizbežno, neko iznese ono o čemu mnogi među vama misle, a to je: „Ako je sreća u mojoj urođenoj prirodi, kako to da je ne osećam? Kako to da imam doživljaj da je moj život bezveze?“
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(Smeh)
And the answer to that is actually very simple. You have spent your entire life learning to be unhappy. Let me repeat that: you have spent your entire life learning to be unhappy. And the way we learn to be unhappy is by buying into a particular mental model.
Odgovor na to je zapravo vrlo jednostavan. Proveli ste čitav život učeći da budete nesrećni. Da ponovim, proveli ste čitav život učeći da budete nesrećni. Biti nesrećan se uči prihvatanjem specifičnog mentalnog modela.
A mental model is a notion we have that this is the way the world works. All of us have mental models, we've got dozens of mental models. We've got mental models on how to find a job, how to get ahead at work, how to pick a restaurant to eat at, how to have a movie to go to ... dozens of them. The problem isn't that we have mental models. The problem is that we don't know that we have mental models. We think this is the way the world works. And the more we invest in a mental model, the more it appears that this, in fact, is the way the world works. But it isn't: it's just a mental model, and the mental model we have that we buy into so strongly is that we have to get something so we can do something so we can be something. Like, we have to get a great deal of money so we can travel to exotic places so we can be happy. We have to be in a relationship so we can have great sex so we can be happy.
Mentalni model je predstava koju imamo o načinu na koji svet funkcioniše. Svi mi imamo mentalne modele, desetine mentalnih modela. Imamo mentalne modele o tome kako pronaći posao, kako napredovati na poslu, kako odabrati restoran u kome ćemo jesti, koji film ćemo gledati... Desetine njih. Problem nije u tome što imamo mentalne modele. Problem je taj što ne znamo da imamo mentalne modele. Mislimo da je to način na koji svet funkcioniše. Što više ulažemo u mentalni model, sve se više čini da to zapravo i jeste način na koji svet funkcioniše. Međutim, nije, to je samo mentalni model, a mentalni model koji imamo i koga se tako snažno držimo je da moramo da imamo nešto da bismo uradili nešto tako da bismo bili nešto. Na primer, moramo da steknemo mnogo novca da bismo putovali na egzotična mesta da bismo bili srećni. Moramo da budemo u vezi da bismo imali sjajne seksualne odnose da bismo bili srećni.
All of this is a variation of the if-then model. And the if-then model is: if this happens, then we will be happy. If I were to get a better job, if I were to get more money, if my boss would have a heart attack, if only I was married, if only my wife would leave me --
Sve to su varijacije modela „ako-onda“. Model „ako-onda“ znači - ako se ovo desi, onda ćemo biti srećni. Kada bih dobio bolji posao, kada bih imao više novca, kada bi moj šef doživeo srčani udar, samo kada bih bio u braku, samo kada bi me žena ostavila,
(Laughter)
(Smeh)
if only I had children, if my children would grow up and go to college ... It doesn't matter what it is. The whole notion is if this happens, then I will be happy.
samo kada bih imao dece, kada bi moja deca odrasla i krenula na fakultet... Svejedno šta je u pitanju. Cela ideja je o tome da, ako se ovo dogodi, onda ću biti srećan.
And right now, the only thing that's different between the persons in this audience is what is the particular "if" that you are focusing on? And the only thing that's different between you now and where you were 10 years ago is what is the particular "if" that you were focusing on? Think about your life 10 years ago. Spend a minute doing that. Ten years ago, if you remember clearly, there were certain things you wanted. Is that correct? Odds are pretty good that many of those things you wanted 10 years ago you now have. Is that correct? Where has that left you? In exactly the same place, right?
U ovom trenutku, jedino što je različito među ljudima u ovoj publici je koje je to specifično „ako“ na koje ste fokusirani. Jedino što je drugačije kod vas danas u odnosu na vas pre deset godina je koje je to određeno „ako“ na koje ste se fokusirali. Razmislite o svom životu pre deset godina. Odvojite minut za to. Pre deset godina, ako se dobro prisetite, želeli ste određene stvari. Je l' tako? Prilično su dobri izgledi da sada imate mnoge od tih stvari koje ste želeli pre deset godina. Je l' tako? Šta ste time dobili? I dalje ste na istom, zar ne?
What we don't realize is the model itself is flawed. The if-then model -- "If this happens I will be happy" -- the model itself is flawed. But instead of recognizing that it is the model itself that's flawed, what we do is spend enormous amounts of time changing the "if." "Oh, well, I thought if I became CEO it would help, but now I realize it's not that I want to become a CEO. I want to become the billionaire CEO, and then I will be happy." You've got your own variation on that. But it's the model itself that's flawed, not what you put on the "if" side of the equation. I can demonstrate that to you.
Ono što ne shvatamo je da je sam taj model pogrešan. Model „ako-onda“ - „ako se to desi, biću srećan“ - sam taj model je pogrešan. Umesto da prepoznamo da je sam taj model pogrešan, mi provodimo ogromnu količinu vremena menjajući deo „ako“. „Pa, mislio sam da će pomoći ako postanem generalni direktor, ali sada shvatam da nije stvar u tome da hoću da budem direktor. Hoću da budem direktor milijarder, a tada ću biti srećan.“ Imate svoje varijacije na tu temu. Međutim, sam taj model je pogrešan, a ne ono što stavite na stranu „ako“ u jednačini. Mogu to da vam ilustrujem.
Can any of you recall a time when you were confronted with a scene of such spectacular beauty that it took you outside of yourself into a place of great serenity? Maybe a rainbow, a mountain range, a valley, the sea. And if you remember that -- raise your hands if you could. Virtually all of you could, right? Have you ever wondered why that happened? The reason that happened is that somehow, for some reason, at that instant, you accepted the universe exactly as it was. You didn't say, "That's a beautiful rainbow, but it's kind of off to the left, and if I could move it 200 yards to the right, it would be ever so much more beautiful."
Da li se neko od vas može prisetiti trenutka kada ste se susreli sa prizorom tako upečatljive lepote da vas je izmestio iz sopstvene kože i odveo na mesto velikog spokoja? Možda je u pitanju duga, planinski venac, dolina, more. Ako se sećate toga - podignite ruke ako ste se setili. Gotovo svi ste mogli, zar ne? Da li ste se ikada zapitali zašto se to dogodilo? Razlog tome je da ste nekako, iz nekog razloga, u tom trenutku prihvatili univerzum baš onakav kakav jeste. Niste rekli: „To je prelepa duga, ali nekako ide malo više ulevo, a kad biste je pomerili 200 metara udesno, bila bi mnogo lepša.“
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(Smeh)
You didn't say, "That's a beautiful valley, but the tree in the foreground has too many crooked branches. So if you gave me a chainsaw and 20 minutes, I'd make it ever so much better."
Niste rekli: „To je prelepa dolina, ali drvo koje se tu ističe ima previše krivih grana. Ako biste mi dali motornu testeru i 20 minuta, učinio bih je mnogo lepšom.“
Oh no, the rainbow off-center was just fine. The tree with its crooked branches was just fine. And the moment you accepted the universe just as it was, your habitual-wanting self dropped away, and the happiness which is your innate nature surfaced, and you felt it. And I know you felt it because now, even now after all those years, you can still remember it.
Ne, dugina nepodešenost je bila sasvim u redu. Drvo sa iskrivljenim granama bilo je sasvim u redu. Tog trenutka kada ste prihvatili univerzum onakvog kakav jeste, nestalo je vaše ja koje po običaju traži, a isplivala je sreća koja je vaše urođeno stanje i to ste osetili. Znam da ste to osetili jer se sada, čak i nakon svih tih godina, i dalje možete setiti toga.
The problem is that your life right now, with all of the problems that you have -- more precisely, all of the problems that you think you have -- is equally perfect. But you do not accept it. In fact, you're spending all your time striving with might and main to make it different. You are not accepting it. And when you're not accepting it, you're buying into the if-then model: if this happens, then I will be happy. And it's the model itself that is flawed.
Problem je u tome što je vaš sadašnji život, sa svim problemima koje imate - preciznije, sa svim problemima koje mislite da imate - podjednako savršen. Ipak, vi to ne prihvatate. U stvari, provodite celokupno svoje vreme boreći se svim silama da ga promenite. Ne prihvatate ga. A ako ga ne prihvatate, onda utonete u model „ako-onda“ - ako se ovo desi, onda ću biti srećan, a sam taj model je pogrešan.
So let me show you how you can get out of that, or at least you can begin the steps towards getting out of that. I'd like to share with you that action. We all live our lives because we want to achieve something, correct? You know, we are here and we want to have something. Alex wants to have a successful conference. You know, many of you want to have great programs for your companies that are very successful. You want to progress, have more money, all of that, is that correct? Each of those is an outcome; you would like something to happen.
Dopustite da vam zato pokažem kako možete izaći iz toga, ili makar kako možete otpočeti sa koracima ka izlaženju iz toga. Hteo bih da podelim sa vama tu akciju. Svi živimo svojim životom jer želimo da nešto postignemo, je l' tako? Znate, ovde smo i hoćemo da imamo nešto. Aleks želi da ima uspešnu konferenciju. Znate, mnogi među vama žele da imaju sjajne programe za svoje kompanije koje su veoma uspešne. Želite na napredujete, imate više novca, sve to, zar nije tako? Sve to su ishodi; voleli biste da se nešto dogodi.
Now, I'd like you to think about the following: actions are within your control, not entirely, but to a large extent. The outcome is completely out of your control. OK? Actions are within your control. The outcome is completely outside your control.
Sada bih hteo da razmislite o sledećem - postupci su pod vašom kontrolom; ne potpuno, ali u većoj meri. Ishod je potpuno izvan vaše kontrole. U redu? Postupci su pod vašom kontrolom. Ishodi su potpuno van vaše kontrole.
Have any of you recognized that when you have a goal and you start to work towards it, some of the time you don't achieve your goal, and some of the time what you get is the exact opposite of what you wanted? Has that happened to any of you?
Da li je iko među vama primetio da, kada imate cilj i počnete da radite ka njemu, ponekad ne dostignete svoj cilj, a ponekad dobijete ono što je potpuno suprotno onome što ste hteli? Da li se to dogodilo nekome od vas?
Like there was a friend of mine who said, "Gee, you know, I have not been paying a lot of attention to my wife, and this has to change." So the next time we went on a business trip, he bought a very expensive dress for her. And this was his way of showing, you know, I care for you, and nice things would happen. And when he presented the gift to his wife, her immediate reaction was, "After 20 years of marriage, you don't know my size?"
Na primer, jedan moj prijatelj je jednom rekao: „Bože, znaš, nisam posvećivao dovoljno pažnje svojoj ženi i to mora da se promeni.“ Sledeći put kada smo otišli na poslovni put, kupio joj je vrlo skupu haljinu. To je bio njegov način da pokaže da mu je stalo, da bi se lepe stvari dogodile. Kada je predao poklon svojoj ženi, njena reakcija u tom trenutku je bila: „Nakon 20 godina braka, ne znaš koju veličinu nosim?“
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(Smeh)
"And furthermore, don't you know I never wear this kind of thing?" And the next thing you know, he had a full-blown marital spat. Has that happened to any of you? You've taken action for a particular outcome and the outcome you got was the exact opposite of what you wanted? Happens all the time.
„Osim toga, zar ne znaš da nikada ne nosim takve stvari?“ U sledećem trenutku, imali su bračnu razmiricu velikih razmera. Da li se to desilo nekome od vas? Preduzeli ste akcije radi određenog cilja i ishod koji ste dobili bio je potpuno suprotan onome što ste želeli? To se stalno dešava.
Well, we live in a world where what we think of, what we invest in, is the outcome. We define our life in the following way: here I am, here is where I want to go, these are the steps I have to take in order to get from where I am to where I want to go, and if I succeed, life is wonderful. And if I don't, then I have failed, life is no good, life sucks. True? False? That is how we live. We invest in the outcome, and as I've just pointed out, the outcome is frequently different from what we would like, and sometimes the diametric opposite of what we would like. You invest in the outcome and you are guaranteed to have more than your share of frustration, angst and all the rest of the stuff that makes life suck.
Živimo u svetu u kome ono o čemu razmišljamo, ono u šta ulažemo, predstavlja ishod. Definišemo svoj život na sledeći način - ovde se nalazim, ovde hoću da budem, ovo su koraci koje treba da preduzmem kako bih stigao sa mesta na kome sam na ono gde želim da budem, a ako uspem, život je predivan. Ako ne uspem, onda sam promašio, život nije dobar, život ne valja. Da li je tako ili nije? Tako živimo. Ulažemo u ishode, a kao što sam upravo ukazao, ishodi su često drugačiji u odnosu na ono što bismo voleli, a ponekad dijametralno suprotni u odnosu na ono što bismo voleli. Ulažite u ishode i garantovano ćete imati i previše frustracija, anksioznosti i ostalih stvari zbog kojih vam je život bezveze.
There is an alternative. And the alternative is that you do not invest in the outcome, you invest in the process. And the best way to describe that is a quote by John Wooden. I don't know how many of you are familiar with John Wooden. He's very well-known in the United States and certainly among basketball fans. He's the only person ever to make the basketball Hall of Fame both as a player and as a coach. And what he told his entering team -- he led UCLA to an unprecedented number of victories and finals in the NCAA -- and what he used to tell any new team is he never spoke about winning. He always said, "When it's over and you look in the mirror, did you do the best that you were capable of? And if you did the best that you were capable of, the score doesn't matter. But I would suspect that if you did the best that you were capable of, you will find the score to your liking." That is investing in a process.
Postoji alternativa. Alternativa je da ne ulažete u ishod, već ulažete u proces. Najbolji način da to opišem je pomoću citata Džona Vudena. Ne znam koliko vas zna za Džona Vudena. On je veoma poznat u Sjedinjenim Državama, svakako među obožavaocima košarke. On je jedina osoba koja je dospela do Dvorane slavnih u košarci kao igrač i kao trener. Nikada nije govorio timu koji dolazi - vodio je tim Univerziteta u Kalifoniji, Los Anđeles, ka nečuvenom broju pobeda i finala Nacionalne studentske sportske asocijacije - nikada nije govorio nijednom novom timu o pobeđivanju. Uvek je govorio: „Kada je sve gotovo i kada se pogledate u ogledalu, da li ste dali sve od sebe? Ako jeste dali sve od sebe, rezultat nije bitan. Ipak, pretpostavljam da će vam se, ako date sve od sebe, svideti rezultat.“ To je ulaganje u proces.
What we do is the exact opposite. We invest in the outcome. This is what I want -- oh, I want it so desperately, because if I get it I will be happy. And you try with might and main, to do whatever you can, but you are always focusing on, "This is the outcome." Now, focusing on the outcome is fine. It gives you direction. Investing in the outcome means that you make the achievement of a particular outcome dependent for your well-being. And that is a surefire recipe for failure.
Ono što mi radimo je potpuno suprotno tome. Ulažemo u ishod. „Hoću ovo, o, očajnički to želim, jer ako to dobijem, biću srećan.“ Trudite se svim silama da uradite sve što možete, ali ste uvek fokusirani na „ovo je ishod“. E, sad, fokusiranje na ishod je u redu; daje vam pravac. Ulaganje u ishod znači da postižete ostvarenje određenog rezultata od koga zavisi vaša dobrobit, a to je siguran recept za neuspeh.
What you can do is something else. You can invest in the process. That is, once you have determined, here is where I am, here is where I want to be, and that's fine, you focus on the outcome only to the extent that it gives you direction, and then you invest yourself completely in the process. You say, here are the steps you want to take, and you put everything into it. And if you succeed, wonderful. And if you don't succeed, still wonderful, because now you have a new starting point, and from that new starting point, you select another outcome and keep going. And when you do that, you will find that every day is a blast.
Možete uraditi nešto drugo. Možete ulagati u proces. Odnosno, kada jednom ustanovite gde se nalazite, gde želite da budete i to je u redu, fokusirate se na ishod samo u toj meri da vam to daje pravac, a zatim potpuno ulažete sebe u proces. Kažete: „Ovo su koraci koje ću preduzeti“ i uložite sve u to. Ako uspete, odlično. Ako ne uspete, i dalje je odlično, jer sada imate novu polaznu tačku i sa te polazne tačke birate sledeći ishod i nastavljate dalje. Kada to uradite, uvidećete da je svaki dan uživancija.
Let me give you an example. And if you have children -- raise your hands if you have children. Have you ever seen a small child learn to walk? What happens, and this happens typically between 11 and 13 months, is the child gets up and she sees everybody walking, she wants to walk, she gets up, she falls down, she starts crying and momma runs up and comforts her, kisses the place, makes it well. She tries again, falls down, mommy runs up again. After some time, mommy feels tired and no longer runs up and the child stops crying, and then she gets up, takes a step and doesn't fall down, and then she takes another, and a beautiful smile comes on her face. And very soon, generally within 24 hours, she's walking all over the place, upsetting your living room arrangements. And you know you've gone to a new stage of parenting. Right?
Dozvolite da vam dam primer. Podignite ruku ako imate dece. Jeste li ikada videli dete koje uči da hoda? Ono što se desi, a obično se desi između 11. i 13. meseca, jeste da dete ustane i vidi da svi hodaju, ono hoće da hoda, ustane, padne, počne da plače, mama dotrči da uteši i poljubi gde boli da bude bolje. Ono proba ponovo, padne, mama ponovo dotrči. Nakon izvesnog vremena, mama se umori i više ne dotrčava i dete prestane da plače, zatim ustane, zakorači i ne padne, onda načini sledeći korak i prelepi osmeh mu se javi na licu. Vrlo uskoro, uglavnom u roku od 24 sata, ono šeta svuda unaokolo i remeti raspored u dnevnoj sobi. Tada znate da ste na novom stadijumu roditeljstva. Zar ne?
Now, imagine what would happen if each time the child fell, she would say, "Oh my God, I failed again. I'm never going to learn to walk." And you have to get counseling for her to help her deal with feelings of inadequacy and not being able to achieve and fail yet again. How long do you think it would take her to learn to walk if you had to do that, if every three times she fell down, you had to get a counselor to counsel her and so on? Sounds funny, doesn't it? But that is exactly what we're doing. What the child is doing is focusing on the process. She's investing in the process, not in the outcome.
Sada zamislite šta bi se dogodilo kada bi dete, svaki put kada padne, reklo: „O bože, opet nisam uspela. Nikada neću naučiti da hodam.“ Onda morate da je vodite na savetovanje da joj pomognete da se izbori sa osećanjima neadekvatnosti i nesposobnosti da ostvari cilj i da iznova pada. Šta mislite, koliko vremena bi mu trebalo da nauči da hoda ako biste morali to da radite, ako biste na svaka tri njena pada morali da nađete savetnika da je posavetuje i tako iznova? Zvuči smešno, zar ne? No, to je ono što radimo. Dete se fokusira na proces. Ulaže u proces, ne u ishod.
What we do is the exact opposite. As we grow up, we lose the ability to invest in the process, we start investing in the outcome. By definition the outcome is outside of our control, and if that's where we spend all of our emotional energy, we are going to get drained as we do.
Mi radimo sasvim suprotno. Kako odrastamo, gubimo sposobnost da ulažemo u proces i počemo da ulažemo u ishod. Po definiciji je ishod van naše kontrole, a ako u njega ulažemo celokupnu emocionalnu energiju, time ćemo se iscrpeti.
But if, on the other hand, we said, "Here is the outcome, I am going to invest in the process and give it every single bit I could," every day is a blast, and you're well on your way to achieving the vision that I outlined to you.
Međutim, sa druge strane, ako kažemo: „Evo ishoda, ulagaću u proces i daću sve od sebe što mogu“, svaki dan je uživanje i na dobrom ste putu da postignete viziju koju sam vam opisao.
The question that I get all the time, is people say, "Professor Rao, but nothing makes me passionate." So I say, "OK, what would?" And they invariably come up with, you know, here is a list of things. Here's my job and here's how much it pays, this is the kind of person my boss is, the kind of people my colleagues are, and here's how my customers are, here's how much I travel, here's how big my office is, how deep the carpeting is, how many windows I have -- a bunch of parameters.
Pitanje koje mi stalno postavljaju je: „Profesore Rao, ali kod mene ništa ne izaziva strast.“ Na to ja kažem: „U redu, šta bi izazvalo?“ Tada bez izuzetka iznesu spisak stvari. Evo koji je moj posao i evo koliko je plaćen, ovakav je moj šef, ovakve su moje kolege, ovakve su moje mušterije, evo koliko putujem, evo kolika je moja kancelarija, koliko mi je debeo tepih, koliko prozora imam - gomila parametara.
And what I tell them is what I want to share with you, because all of that stuff -- first of all, it doesn't exist. But second, even if it did and you were plugged into it, it would not take more than six months for you to be the same sorry, miserable self there as you are now, because passion exists inside you. It does not exist in the job. And if you don't find a way to ignite it within you right where you are, you are not going to find it outside. But if you do find a way to ignite it where you are, then you will find that the external world rearranges itself to accommodate the new person that you are becoming. And as you do that, you will find that miracles happen on a regular basis. Persons come up whom you're delighted to meet. New people enter your life. It's just a breeze, because all you do in your life is you take journeys.
Govorim im ono što želim da podelim i sa vama, jer sve te stvari - pre svega, to ne postoji. Drugo, čak i da postoji i da ste u tome, za ne više od šest meseci postali biste isto tako nesrećni i očajni kao što ste sada, jer strast postoji u vama. Ona nije u poslu. Ako ne nađete način da je razbuktate u sebi baš tu gde se nalazite, nećete je naći izvan. Ako nađete način da je razbuktate tu gde jeste, otkrićete tada da se spoljašnji svet preuređuje da bi se prilagodio osobi koja postajete. Dok to radite, otkrićete da se čuda svakodnevno dešavaju. Upoznajete osobe kojima ste oduševljeni. Novi ljudi ulaze u vaš život. To je samo povetarac, jer sve što činite u životu su odlaženja na putovanja.
You came here to this conference; you went on a journey. You hang around the water cooler, talking about how terrible your place of work is; you went on a journey. You watch "Desperate Housewives," you go on a journey. You go on a journey where 40-something women are having affairs with 19-something gardeners while the husbands are playing around with models. All you do is go on journeys. There's nothing wrong with that, but just ask yourself, "Is this a journey I want to take? Does this take me to a place I want to spend time?"
Došli ste ovde na ovu konferenciju, otišli ste na putovanje. Okupili ste se oko aparata za vodu i pričate o tome kako je užasno vaše radno mesto - otišli ste na putovanje. Gledate „Očajne domaćice“ - otišli ste na putovanje. Idete na putovanje u kome su žene od četrdesetak godina u aferi sa baštovanima od oko 19, dok se muževi razonode unaokolo za manekenkama. Sve što radite su odlaženja na putovanja. Nema ničeg lošeg u tome, ali se samo zapitajte: „Da li je ovo putovanje na koje želim da idem? Da li me to vodi na mesto na kome želim da provedem vreme?“
And if you start doing that, you will find that your life changes. The kind of people you meet, the things you talk about, the movies you go to, the books you read -- everything changes. And you begin all of that by focusing on the process.
Ako počnete da to radite, uvidećete da vam se život menja. Ljudi koje upoznajete, stvari o kojima govorite, filmovi koje idete da gledate, knjige koje čitate - sve se menja. Sve to počinjete fokusiranjem na proces.
Invest in the process, not in the outcome.
Ulažite u proces, ne u ishod.
Thank you.
Hvala.