It took me thirty-five years to get the missing code of my dreams. Yes, you heard me right. The missing code normally be used code in technologies, the password of a laptop, mobile phones, credit cards, etc. And we know that we can’t get access to these things if we miss the code. Similarly, there is also a missing code to our dreams and that can’t give us access to accomplish our biggest dreams in life. Hi, my name is Shalini Julija, and I am a professional listener. Lots of people share with me that how they couldn’t achieve their goals due to lack of time, money, knowledge or maybe lack of other resources. They keep on blaming people, things and circumstances throughout their lives. Let me ask, do we actually need to have all these things to accomplish big goals? Do you know how do we intend to have big dreams or goals in life? Mostly we all want to grow. Then why a lot of people get settled for small and ordinary and said reasonable goals instead of creating big ones. We have also observed that most of the time we try to do things that we find easy and hesitate to challenge ourselves for something really big. A lot of people find themselves confused and have no clarity about what they want. Some of us try to copy others and fail miserably. Now the question is, what comes in our way to be powerful enough to set big goals with clarity and accomplish them? Let me share with you the secret of living a powerful life that most of the people are not even aware of. It is so simple, yet profound that it is our way of being that gives us results and not what we know, do or have. As we know that our environment and surroundings play a major role in designing our identities and setting our relationship not only with others but also with ourselves. Our choices, decisions and belief system give us a certain way of being that’s responsible for our actions to be performed in a particular way. If I shared about myself, I didn’t even realize when I started to relate to myself as a mediocre and when it became my way of being. I never had big dreams or goals in life. The biggest goal of my life was to get a decent job, to survive. I completed my education and started my struggle to fit in the world as if I had taken Darwin’s theory of evolution to seriously the survival of the fittest. I could manage to get few good jobs for myself and also include with time, I thought this was the best I could do in my life, but I was still not aware of what was missing. Few years back, something happened in my life that changed my perception towards life. For the first time ever, I asked these questions to myself, who am I? What do I really want to do and what’s the purpose of my life? And I could see that how I was living an ordinary life due to a limiting belief, deeply rooted in my subconscious, that I am a mediocre and not meant for big dreams. I was committed, hardworking and determined, but directionless. As there is a famous quote by Paulo Coelho that if we don’t know where to go knowing this favorable. For the first time, I felt a suppressed desire to contribute to the society, to my country and to the whole world. I left my job to fulfill this new dream. But it wasn’t easy for me as when I left my decent job to start something new, people call me crazy, but this time I was clear and didn't care what others had to say. I simply followed what I felt right, and today I not only do what I love, but also own at least 10 times more than what I used to. It all got possible when I broke my limiting belief, my way of being got shifted from a mediocre to a contributor. And today, I want to share my learnings with all those who really want to do something big. That it does not matter what you know, do or have, what matters the most is who are you being? Your ability to accomplish big dreams in life depends upon the way you relate to yourself, as it is rightly said by Robert Holden that your relationship to yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have. So if you really want to do something big, instead of asking what to do and how to do, ask yourself who am I being and who do I need to be? And you will find your missing code. Thank you.
我花了三十五年 才找到我夢想的遣漏碼。 對,你沒有聽錯。 遣漏碼通常是用在應用技術的代碼, 還有手提電腦、手機、 信用卡等的密碼。 而我們都知道如果我們遺失了密碼 就無法使用這些技術。 同樣地,我們的夢想也有遣漏碼, 它使我們無法成就我們最大的夢想。 嗨,我是夏里妮·朱莉婭, 我是個專業的聆聽者。 很多人跟我分享 爲什麼他們無法實現他們的目標, 因爲沒有時間、金錢、 知識或者其他資源。 他們總是責怪生命中的 其他人、事物和種種情況。 我問你,我們真的需要 這麼多東西才能實現夢想嗎? 你知道我們爲何擁有 偉大的夢想與人生目標? 我們大都想要成長。 那爲什麼很多人滿足於微小和平凡, 只要合理的目標而不是遠大的目標? 我們也觀察到很多時候 我們會嘗試做容易的事情, 而不去挑戰自己 做些偉大的事情。 很多人很困惑, 也對自己想要的是什麼一無所知。 一些人嘗試模仿別人,最後一敗塗地。 而問題是, 有什麼東西強大到足以 使我們訂立遠大而 清晰的目標並付諸實行? 讓我告訴你活出強力人生的祕密, 但大多數人甚至 從來沒有發現過。 這很簡單,同時又很深奧, 是我們的生活方式決定結果, 而不是我們所知和所有。 我們都知道我們的周圍環境 會大大影響我們的身份認同 和建立人際關係, 不只與其他人,還有跟自己的關係。 我們的選擇、決定、宗教 給予我們某種生存方式, 它導致我們的行動 會以特定的形式進行。 如果我分享我自己, 我甚至不會發現 何時開始我認爲自己只是個平凡人, 何時開始我會有這種想法。 我從來沒有遠大的夢想和目標。 我最大的人生目標是 找份好工作,好好生存。 我完成學業後,拚命融入這個社會, 因爲我把達爾文的進化論中的 適者生存看得太過認真。 我能夠獲得幾份好工作 和隨年資增長升職, 我以爲這就是我人生最好的成就, 但我仍不知道我到底欠缺了什麼。 幾年前,發生了一件事 令我對生命的看法徹底改變。 那是我第一次, 問自己這些問題。 我到底是誰? 我真正想做什麼, 我的人生意義是什麼? 而我看見我之前過着平凡的人生, 因爲受限的信念, 在我潛意識深處紮根: 我只是個普通人,不配有遠大夢想。 我很堅定、努力、有決心, 但是沒有方向。 正如保羅·柯艾略的名句: 如果我們不知道目的地在何方, 知道這是有利的。 這是我第一次感受到 一直被壓抑的欲望, 想要貢獻社會、 貢獻國家、甚至全世界的欲望。 我辭去工作 去實現這個新夢想。 但這並不容易, 因爲當我離開美好的工作 去開展新生活時, 大家都說我瘋了, 但這次我非常清醒, 也不介意其他人說了什麼。 我只是跟從我的直覺, 而今天我不只可以做我喜歡的工作, 還至少比以前多賺 10 倍。 當我打破受限的信念, 這一切變得皆有可能, 我存在的方式從普通人變成貢獻者。 而今天,我想分享我所學到的 給那些真正想要達成遠大目標的人。 你知道多少、擁有多少並不重要, 重要的是你是個什麼人。 你實現夢想的能力 取決於你如何看待自己, 正如羅伯特·荷頓所說: 你和你自己的關係 決定了你和其他所有人的關係。 所以如果你想做大事, 不要問要做什麼和怎麼做, 問自己我是誰和我想要成爲誰。 而你就會找到那遺失的代碼。 謝謝。