So today, I want us to reflect on the demise of guys. Guys are flaming out academically; they're wiping out socially with girls and sexually with women. Other than that, there's not much of a problem. So what's the data? So the data on dropping out is amazing. Boys are 30 percent more likely than girls to drop out of school. In Canada, five boys drop out for every three girls. Girls outperform boys now at every level, from elementary school to graduate school. There's a 10 percent differential between getting BA's and all graduate programs, with guys falling behind girls. Two-thirds of all students in special ed. remedial programs are guys. And as you all know, boys are five times more likely than girls to be labeled as having attention deficit disorder -- and therefore we drug them with Ritalin.
Želim da se danas osvrnemo na nestajanje muškaraca. Muškarci propadaju u školama, nestaju iz društva djevojaka i iz seksa sa ženama. Osim toga, nema previše problema. Dakle, kakvi su podaci? Podaci o propadanju u školama su nevjerojatni. Vjerojatnost da će dečki prekinuti školovanje je za 30 posto veća nego kod djevojaka. U Kanadi, školu prekida pet dječaka na svake tri djevojke. Djevojke su bolje od dječaka na svakoj razini, od osnovne škole do fakulteta. Razlika je čak 10 posto u stizanju do diplome, na svim dodiplomskim studijima, toliko dečki zaostaju za djevojkama. Dvije trećine učenika u programima specijalnog obrazovanja su dečki. I kao što svi znate, vjerojatnost je pet puta veća nego kod djevojaka da se dečkima pripiše poremećaj nedostatka pažnje -- i onda ih drogiramo Ritalinom.
What's the evidence of wiping out? First, it's a new fear of intimacy. Intimacy means physical, emotional connection with somebody else -- and especially with somebody of the opposite sex who gives off ambiguous, contradictory, phosphorescent signals. (Laughter) And every year there's research done on self-reported shyness among college students. And we're seeing a steady increase among males. And this is two kinds. It's a social awkwardness. The old shyness was a fear of rejection. It's a social awkwardness like you're a stranger in a foreign land. They don't know what to say, they don't know what to do, especially one-on-one [with the] opposite sex. They don't know the language of face contact, the non-verbal and verbal set of rules that enable you to comfortably talk to somebody else, listen to somebody else.
Koji su dokazi nestajanja? Prvo, tu je novi strah od bliskosti. Bliskost je tjelesna i emocionalna povezanost s nekim drugim -- a naročito s nekim suprotnog spola koji daje dvosmislene, kontradiktorne, svjetlosne signale. (Smijeh) Svake godine provodi se istraživanje o razini stida kod sveučilišnih studenata. Vidimo da to stabilno raste kod muškaraca. Postoje dvije vrste stidljivosti. Postoji društvena nezgrapnost. Stara stidljivost je bila strah od odbijanja. Ovo je kao da ste stranac u nekoj stranoj zemlji. Ne znaju što da kažu, ne znaju što da rade, naročito kada se nađu nasamo s pripadnicom suprotnog spola. Ne znaju jezik kontakta licem, neverbalni i verbalni skup pravila koji vam omogućava da ugodno pričate s nekim drugim, slušate nekoga drugoga.
There's something I'm developing here called social intensity syndrome, which tries to account for why guys really prefer male bonding over female mating. It turns out, from earliest childhood, boys, and then men, prefer the company of guys -- physical company. And there's actually a cortical arousal we're looking at, because guys have been with guys in teams, in clubs, in gangs, in fraternities, especially in the military, and then in pubs. And this peaks at Super Bowl Sunday when guys would rather be in a bar with strangers, watching a totally overdressed Aaron Rodgers of the Green Bay Packers, rather than Jennifer Lopez totally naked in the bedroom. The problem is they now prefer [the] asynchronistic Internet world to the spontaneous interaction in social relationships.
Postoji nešto što razvijam i što sam nazvao sindromom društvenog intenziteta, kojim pokušavam otkriti zašto dečki preferiraju muško druženje umjesto susreta sa ženama. Ispostavlja se da od najranijeg djetinjstva dečki, koji poslije postaju muškarcima, preferiraju muško društvo -- boravak u društvu muškaraca. Tu se zapravo radi o kortikalnom nadražaju, jer dečki su s dečkima u ekipama, klubovima, bandama, bratstvima, naročito u vojsci, a zatim u krčmama. A vrhunac toga je završnica nogometnog prvenstva kada su dečki u baru s neznancima i radije gledaju previše odjevenog Aarona Rodgersa iz Green Bay Packersa, nego Jennifer Lopez potpuno golu u spavaćoj sobi. Problem je u tome što sada preferiraju asinkronističan svijet Interneta umjesto spontanih interakcija u međuljudskim odnosima.
What are the causes? Well, it's an unintended consequence. I think it's excessive Internet use in general, excessive video gaming, excessive new access to pornography. The problem is these are arousal addictions. Drug addiction, you simply want more. Arousal addiction, you want different. Drugs, you want more of the same -- different. So you need the novelty in order for the arousal to be sustained.
Koji su uzroci? I to je nenamjerna posljedica. Mislim da je uzrok prekomjerno korištenje Interneta općenito, prekomjerno igranje video igara, i najnovije, prekomjeran pristup pornografiji. Problem je u tome što su to ovisnosti nadražaja. Kod ovisnosti o drogi jednostavno želiš više. Kod ovisnosti o nadražaju, želiš drugačije. Droga: želiš više istoga -- ovdje drugačije. Potrebno je nešto novo kako bi nadražaj bio zadržan.
And the problem is the industry is supplying it. Jane McGonigal told us last year that by the time a boy is 21, he's played 10,000 hours of video games, most of that in isolation. As you remember, Cindy Gallop said men don't know the difference between making love and doing porn. The average boy now watches 50 porn video clips a week. And there's some guy watching a hundred, obviously. (Laughter) And the porn industry is the fastest growing industry in America -- 15 billion annually. For every 400 movies made in Hollywood, there are 11,000 now made porn videos.
A problem je što industrija to nudi. Jane McGonigal nam je prošle godine rekla da dječak do svoje 21. godine odigra 10.000 sati video igara, većinu toga u izolaciji. Sjetit ćete se, Cindy Gallop nam je rekla da muškarci ne znaju razliku između vođenja ljubavi i pornografije. Prosječni dječak sada gleda 50 pornografskih video snimki tjedno. A negdje, netko odgleda i stotinu, naravno. (Smijeh) Pornografska industrija je najbrže rastuća industrija u Americi -- 15 milijardi godišnje. Na svakih 400 filmova napravljenih u Hollywoodu, sada imamo 11.000 pornografskih filmova.
So the effect, very quickly, is it's a new kind of arousal. Boys' brains are being digitally rewired in a totally new way for change, novelty, excitement and constant arousal. That means they're totally out of sync in traditional classes, which are analog, static, interactively passive. They're also totally out of sync in romantic relationships, which build gradually and subtly.
Ishod je, ukratko, ta nova vrsta nadražaja. Mozgovi dječaka su digitalno prespojeni na totalno drugačiji način i traže promjene, novitete, uzbuđenje i stalne nadražaje. To znači da su potpno neusklađeni s tradicionalnim razredima, koji su analogni, statički, interaktivno pasivni. Također su potpuno neusklađeni u romantičnim odnosima, koje se gradi postupno i suptilno.
So what's the solution? It's not my job. I'm here to alarm. It's your job to solve.
I koje je rješenje? To nije moj posao. Ja ukazujem na problem. Vaš je posao da ga riješite.
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But who should care? The only people who should care about this is parents of boys and girls, educators, gamers, filmmakers and women who would like a real man who they can talk to, who can dance, who can make love slowly and contribute to the evolutionary pressures to keep our species above banana slugs. No offense to banana slug owners. Thank you.
Ali tko bi se trebao zabrinuti? Jedini ljudi koji bi trebali brinuti o ovome su roditelji dječaka i djevojčica, prosvjetni radnici, proizvođači igara i filmova, i žene koji bi htjele pravog muškarca s kojim mogu pričati, s kojim mogu plesati, koji može voditi ljubav polako i doprinositi evolucijskim pritiscima da našu vrstu održi iznad banana puža. Bez uvrede vlasnicima banana puževa. Hvala vam.
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