Hi, kids.
Pershendetje, kalamaja.
(Laughter)
(Te qeshura)
I'm 71.
Une jam 71 vjece.
(Applause) My husband is 76. My parents are in their late 90s, and Olivia, the dog, is 16. So let's talk about aging.
(Duartrokitje) Burri im eshte 76 vjec. Prinderit e mi jane ne fund te 90-tave, dhe Olivia, qeni eshte 16 vjec. Keshtu qe le te flasim per plakjen.
Let me tell you how I feel when I see my wrinkles in the mirror and I realize that some parts of me have dropped and I can't find them down there. (Laughter)
Me lejoni t'ju them sesi ndihem kur shoh rrudhat e mia ne pasqyre dhe kur kuptoj se disa pjese te miat me kane rene dhe nuk mund ti gjej aty poshte. (Te qeshura)
Mary Oliver says in one of her poems, "Tell me, what is it that you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" Me, I intend to live passionately.
Mary Oliver thote ne nje nga poemat e saj, "Me tregoni, se cfare planifikoni te beni me jeten tuaj te vetme te eger e te vyer?" Une, kisha per qellim te jetoja me pasion.
When do we start aging? Society decides when we are old, usually around 65, when we get Medicare, but we really start aging at birth. We are aging right now, and we all experience it differently. We all feel younger than our real age, because the spirit never ages. I am still 17. Sophia Loren. Look at her. She says that everything you see she owes to spaghetti. I tried it and gained 10 pounds in the wrong places. But attitude, aging is also attitude and health. But my real mentor in this journey of aging is Olga Murray. This California girl at 60 started working in Nepal to save young girls from domestic bondage. At 88, she has saved 12,000 girls, and she has changed the culture in the country. (Applause) Now it is illegal for fathers to sell their daughters into servitude. She has also founded orphanages and nutritional clinics. She is always happy and eternally young.
Kur ne fillojme te plakemi? Shoqeria vendos se kur ne jemi te plakur, zakonisht rreth moshes 65, kur ne marrim ndihmen shendetesore Medicare, por ne te vertete ne fillojme te plakemi kur lindim. Ne po plakemi dhe ne kete moment, dhe te gjithe ne e perjetojme ne menyra te ndryshme. Ne te gjithe ndjehemi me te rinj sesa mosha jone reale, sepse shpirti kurre nuk plaket. Une jam akoma 17 vjece. Sophia Loren. Shikojeni ate. Ajo thote se cdo gje qe ju shihni ajo ia detyron spagetit. Une e provova dhe shtova 5 kg ne vendet e gabuara. Por sjellja, plakja eshte gjithashtu menyre te sjelluri dhe shendet. Por mentorja ime e vertete ne kete udhetim te plakjes eshte Olga Murray. Kjo vajze kaliforniane ne moshen 60 vjec filloi te punoje ne Nepal per te shpetuar vajzat e reja nga skllaveria familjare. Ne moshen 88 vjecare, ajo kishte shpetuar 12 mije vajza, dhe kishte ndryshuar kulturen e vendit. (Duartrokitje) Tani eshte e paligjshme per baballaret te shesin vajzat e tyre ne roberi. Ajo gjithashtu ka themeluar jetimore dhe klinika ushqyerje. AJo eshte gjithmone e lumtur dhe perjetesisht e re.
What have I lost in the last decades? People, of course, places, and the boundless energy of my youth, and I'm beginning to lose independence, and that scares me. Ram Dass says that dependency hurts, but if you accept it, there is less suffering. After a very bad stroke, his ageless soul watches the changes in the body with tenderness, and he is grateful to the people who help him.
Cfare kam humbur une ne dekadat e fundit? Njerezit sigurisht, vendet, dhe energjine e pashtershme te rinise sime, dhe kam filluar te humb pavaresine, dhe kjo me frikeson mua. Ram Dass thote qe varesia te dhemb, por nese e pranon ate, atehere vuan me pak. Pas nje ishemie te rende, shpirti i tij i pamoshe shikon ndryshimet ne trup me butesi, dhe ai eshte mirenjohes per njerezit qe e ndihmojne ate.
What have I gained? Freedom: I don't have to prove anything anymore. I'm not stuck in the idea of who I was, who I want to be, or what other people expect me to be. I don't have to please men anymore, only animals. I keep telling my superego to back off and let me enjoy what I still have. My body may be falling apart, but my brain is not, yet. I love my brain. I feel lighter. I don't carry grudges, ambition, vanity, none of the deadly sins that are not even worth the trouble. It's great to let go. I should have started sooner. And I also feel softer because I'm not scared of being vulnerable. I don't see it as weakness anymore. And I've gained spirituality. I'm aware that before, death was in the neighborhood. Now, it's next door, or in my house. I try to live mindfully and be present in the moment. By the way, the Dalai Lama is someone who has aged beautifully, but who wants to be vegetarian and celibate? (Laughter)
Cfare kam fituar? Liri: Nuk kam cfare ti provoj asgje, askujt. Nuk kam ngecur ne idene se kush isha, se kush duhet te behem, ose se cfare njerezit e tjere presin qe une te jem. Nuk kam pse te kenaq burrat me, vetem kafshet. Vazhdoj ti them egos sime shume te madhe te zbrapset dhe te me lejoje te shijoj ato qe akoma kam. Trupi im mund te jete duke u shperbere, por truri im akoma jo. E dashuroj trurin tim. Ndjehem me e lehte. Nuk mbaj me vete inate, ambicie, kotesi, asnje nga mekatet vrastare per te cilat as nuk ia vlen te shqetesohesh. Eshte e mrekullueshme te lesh te shkoje. Duhet te kisha filluar me pare. Dhe gjithashtu ndjehem me e bute sepse nuk kam frike te ndjehem e prekshme. Nuk e shoh me kete si dobesi. Dhe kam fituar shpirterisht. Jam e ndergjegjshme se me pare, vdekja ishte ne rrethinat e lagjes. Tani, eshte tek shtepia ngjitur ose ne shtepine time. Perpiqem te jetoj e vetedijshme dhe te jem e pranishme ne moment. Meqe ra fjala, Dalai Lama eshte dikush qe eshte plakur me hijeshi, por kush do te jete vegjetarian dhe beqar? (Te qeshura)
Meditation helps.
Meditimi ndihmon.
(Video) Child: Ommm. Ommm. Ommm.
(Video) Femija : Ommm. Ommm. Ommm.
Isabel Allende: Ommm. Ommm. There it is. And it's good to start early.
Isabel Allende: Ommm. Ja ku eshte. Dhe eshte mire te fillosh sa me heret.
You know, for a vain female like myself, it's very hard to age in this culture. Inside, I feel good, I feel charming, seductive, sexy. Nobody else sees that. (Laughter) I'm invisible. I want to be the center of attention. I hate to be invisible. (Laughter) (Applause)
E dini, per nje femer mendjemadhe si une, eshte e veshtire te plakesh ne kete kulture. Shpirterisht, ndjehem mire, ndjehem sharmante, joshese, seksi. Askush tjeter nuk e sheh kete. (Te qeshura) Jam e padukshme. Une dua te jem qendra e vemendjes. Une e urrej te jem e padukshme, (Te qeshura) (Duartrokitje)
This is Grace Dammann. She has been in a wheelchair for six years after a terrible car accident. She says that there is nothing more sensual than a hot shower, that every drop of water is a blessing to the senses. She doesn't see herself as disabled. In her mind, she's still surfing in the ocean. Ethel Seiderman, a feisty, beloved activist in the place where I live in California. She wears red patent shoes, and her mantra is that one scarf is nice but two is better. She has been a widow for nine years, but she's not looking for another mate. She says that there is only a limited number of ways you can screw — well, she says it in another way — and she has tried them all. (Laughter) I, on the other hand, I still have erotic fantasies with Antonio Banderas — (Laughter) — and my poor husband has to put up with it.
Kjo eshte Grace Damman. Ajo ka qene ne karrige me rrota per 6 vjet pas nje aksidenti te tmerrshem me makine. Ajo thote se nuk ka asgje me sensuale sesa nje dush i nxehte, se cdo pike uje eshte nje bekim per shqisat. Ajo nuk e sheh veten si te paafte. Ne mendjen e saj, ajo eshte akoma duke serfuar ne oqean. Ethel Sederman, nje aktiviste shume e dashur dhe festive ne nje vend ku une jetoj ne Kaliforni. Ajo vesh kepuce te kuqe me shkelqim dhe motoja e saj eshte qe nje shall eshte kendshem por 2 eshte me mire. AJo eshte e ve prej 9 vitesh, por ajo nuk eshte duke kerkuar per nje tjeter partner. Ajo thote qe eshte nje numer i limituar e menyrave sesi mund te besh seks- ajo e thote ne nje tjeter menyre - dhe se ajo i ka provuar te gjitha. (Te qeshura) Une, ne anen tjeter, akoma kam fantazi erotike me Antonio Banderas - (Te qeshura)- dhe burri im i gjore duhet ta duroje kete gje.
So how can I stay passionate? I cannot will myself to be passionate at 71. I have been training for some time, and when I feel flat and bored, I fake it. Attitude, attitude. How do I train? I train by saying yes to whatever comes my way: drama, comedy, tragedy, love, death, losses. Yes to life. And I train by trying to stay in love. It doesn't always work, but you cannot blame me for trying.
Keshtu qe si mund te ndjehem e apasionuar? Une nuk mund te detyroj veten te jem e pasionuar ne moshen 71 vjecare. Jam perpjekur per disa kohe, dhe kur ndjehesha e merzitur, shtiresha. Sjellja, sjellja. Si stervitem une? Stervitem duke thene po te cfaredo gjeje qe me del perpara: drames, komedise, tragjedise, dashurise, vdekjes, humbjeve. PO, jetes. Dhe stervitem duke u perpjekur te qendroj e dashuruar. Nuk eshte se fuksionon gjithmone, por nuk mund te me fajesosh mua qe perpiqem.
And, on a final note, retirement in Spanish is jubilación. Jubilation. Celebration. We have paid our dues. We have contributed to society. Now it's our time, and it's a great time. Unless you are ill or very poor, you have choices. I have chosen to stay passionate, engaged with an open heart. I am working on it every day. Want to join me?
Dhe, si shenim perfundimtar, pensioni ne spanjisht eshte "jubilacion". Ngazellim. Festim. Ne kemi paguar detyrimet tona, Ne kemi kontribuar ne shoqeri. Tani eshte koha jone, dhe eshte nje kohe fantastike, Duke perjashtuar rastet kur je i semure ose shume i varfer, ti ke zgjedhje. Une kam zgjedhur te qendroj e apasionuar, e angazhuar me nje zemer te madhe. Po punoj me kete cdo dite. Deshironi te bashkoheni me mua?
Thank you.
Faleminderit.
(Applause)
(Duartrokitje)
June Cohen: So Isabel — IA: Thank you.
June Cohen: Keshtu Isabel — IA: Faleminderit.
JC: First of all, I never like to presume to speak for the TED community, but I would like to tell you that I have a feeling we can all agree that you are still charming, seductive and sexy. Yes?
JC: Fillimisht, Nuk po supozoj se flas ne emer te komunitetit te TED, por kam deshire t'ju them qe mendoj se te gjithe jemi ne nje mendje se ju jeni akoma sharmante, joshese dhe seksi. PO?
IA: Aww, thank you. (Applause)
IA: Ahh, faleminderit. (Duartrokitje)
JC: Hands down. IA: No, it's makeup.
JC: Pa diskutim. IA: JO, eshte make up.
Moderator: Now, would it be awkward if I asked you a follow-up question about your erotic fantasies?
Moderator: Tani, do te ishte e cuditshme nese do t'ju beja disa pyetje per fantazite e tua erotike?
IA: Oh, of course. About what?
IA: Oh, sigurisht. Per cfare?
(Laughter)
(Te qeshura)
Moderator: About your erotic fantasies. IA: With Antonio Banderas.
Moderatorja: Per fantazite e tua erotike. IA: Me Antonio Banderas.
Moderator: I was just wondering if you have anything more to share.
Moderatorja: Po pyesja veten nese ke ndonje gje tjeter per te ndare me ne.
IA: Well, one of them is that — (Laughter) One of them is that I place a naked Antonio Banderas on a Mexican tortilla, I slather him with guacamole and salsa, I roll him up, and I eat him. (Laughter)
IA: Mire, njera prej tyre eshte - (Te qeshura) NJera prej tyre eshte se une vendos nje Antonio Banderas te zhveshur nje nje omlete meksikane hedh mbi te guacemole dhe salsa e mbledh dhe me pas e ha. (Te qeshura)
Thank you.
Faleminderit.
(Applause)
(Duartrokitje)