I grew up with my identical twin, who was an incredibly loving brother. Now, one thing about being a twin is, it makes you an expert at spotting favoritism. If his cookie was even slightly bigger than my cookie, I had questions. And clearly, I wasn't starving.
Odrastao sam sa svojim identičnim blizancem koji je izuzetan brat pun ljubavi. Jedna od stvari kad si blizanac je da te to učini ekspertom za primećivanje favorizovanja. Kad bi njegov kolač bio malčice veći od mog, postavljao bih pitanja. A očigledno je da nisam gladovao.
(Laughter)
(Smeh)
When I became a psychologist, I began to notice favoritism of a different kind; and that is, how much more we value the body than we do the mind. I spent nine years at university earning my doctorate in psychology, and I can't tell you how many people look at my business card and say, "Oh -- a psychologist. So, not a real doctor," as if it should say that on my card.
Kada sam postao psiholog, počeo sam da primećujem drugu vrstu favorizovanja, a to je koliko više vrednujemo telo od uma. Proveo sam devet godina na univerzitetu stičući svoj doktorat iz psihologije, i ne mogu da vam opišem koliko ljudi pogleda moju vizit kartu i kaže: "O, psiholog. Znači niste pravi doktor." kao da bi to trebalo da piše na njoj.
[Dr. Guy Winch, Just a Psychologist (Not a Real Doctor)]
(Smeh)
(Laughter)
This favoritism we show the body over the mind -- I see it everywhere.
Ovo favorizovanje tela nad umom vidim svugde.
I recently was at a friend's house, and their five-year-old was getting ready for bed. He was standing on a stool by the sink, brushing his teeth, when he slipped and scratched his leg on the stool when he fell. He cried for a minute, but then he got back up, got back on the stool, and reached out for a box of Band-Aids to put one on his cut. Now, this kid could barely tie his shoelaces, but he knew you have to cover a cut so it doesn't become infected, and you have to care for your teeth by brushing twice a day. We all know how to maintain our physical health and how to practice dental hygiene, right? We've known it since we were five years old. But what do we know about maintaining our psychological health? Well, nothing. What do we teach our children about emotional hygiene? Nothing. How is it that we spend more time taking care of our teeth than we do our minds? Why is it that our physical health is so much more important to us than our psychological health?
Nedavno sam bio u kući jednog prijatelja, i njihov petogodišnjak se spremao za krevet. Stajao je na stolici kraj lavaboa perući zube, kada se okliznuo i ogrebao nogu o stolicu kada je pao. Plakao je minut, ali onda je ponovo ustao, vratio se na stolicu, i posegao za kutijom flastera da stavi jedan na posekotinu. Ovo dete jedva da može da veže pertle, ali zna da treba da zaštitite posekotinu tako da se ne inficira, i da morate da se starate o zubima tako što ćete ih prati dva puta dnevno. Svi mi znamo kako da održavamo fizičko zdravlje i kako da obavljamo higijenu zuba, zar ne? Znamo to od svoje pete godine. Ali šta znamo o održavanju našeg psihičkog zdravlja? Pa, ništa. Čemu učimo našu decu u vezi sa emocionalnom higijenom? Ničemu. Kako to da provodimo više vremena brinući o svojim zubima nego o svom umu. Zašto nam je fizičko zdravlje toliko važnije od psihičkog zdravlja?
We sustain psychological injuries even more often than we do physical ones, injuries like failure or rejection or loneliness. And they can also get worse if we ignore them, and they can impact our lives in dramatic ways. And yet, even though there are scientifically proven techniques we could use to treat these kinds of psychological injuries, we don't. It doesn't even occur to us that we should. "Oh, you're feeling depressed? Just shake it off; it's all in your head." Can you imagine saying that to somebody with a broken leg: "Oh, just walk it off; it's all in your leg."
Trpimo psihičke povrede čak i češće nego fizičke, povrede poput neuspeha ili odbacivanja i usamljenosti. A one se mogu i pogoršati ako ih ignorišemo, i mogu drastično uticati na naše živote. A ipak, iako postoje naučno dokazane tehnike koje možemo koristiti da tretiramo te psihičke povrede, mi to ne činimo. Čak nam ni ne pada na pamet da bi trebalo. "O, deprimiran si? Samo se trgni, sve je to u tvojoj glavi." Možete li da zamislite da kažete to nekome sa slomljenom nogom: "O, samo se trgni, sve je to u tvojoj nozi."
(Laughter)
(Smeh)
It is time we closed the gap between our physical and our psychological health. It's time we made them more equal, more like twins.
Vreme je da zatvorimo jaz između našeg fizičkog i psihičkog zdravlja. Vreme je da ih izjednačimo, kao blizance.
Speaking of which, my brother is also a psychologist. So he's not a real doctor, either.
Kad smo već kod toga, moj brat je takođe psiholog. Tako da ni on nije pravi doktor.
(Laughter)
(Smeh)
We didn't study together, though. In fact, the hardest thing I've ever done in my life is move across the Atlantic to New York City to get my doctorate in psychology. We were apart then for the first time in our lives, and the separation was brutal for both of us. But while he remained among family and friends, I was alone in a new country. We missed each other terribly, but international phone calls were really expensive then, and we could only afford to speak for five minutes a week. When our birthday rolled around, it was the first we wouldn't be spending together. We decided to splurge, and that week, we would talk for 10 minutes.
Nismo studirali zajedno, doduše. Zapravo, u životu mi je najteže bilo da se preselim preko Atlantika u Njujork da bih stekao doktorat iz psihologije. Tada smo bili razdvojeni prvi put u životu, i razdvojenost je bila grozna za obojicu. Ali dok je on ostao sa porodicom i prijateljima, ja sam bio sam u novoj zemlji. Užasno smo nedostajali jedan drugom, ali su međunarodni pozivi tada bili stvarno skupi i mogli smo da priuštimo da pričamo pet minuta nedeljno. Kada je došao naš rođendan, bio je to prvi koji nećemo provesti zajedno. Odlučili smo da se razmećemo i te nedelje da pričamo 10 minuta.
(Laughter)
Proveo sam jutro koračajući po sobi, čekajući ga da pozove -
I spent the morning pacing around my room, waiting for him to call -- and waiting ... and waiting. But the phone didn't ring. Given the time difference, I assumed, "OK, he's out with friends, he'll call later." There were no cell phones then. But he didn't. And I began to realize that after being away for over 10 months, he no longer missed me the way I missed him. I knew he would call in the morning, but that night was one of the saddest and longest nights of my life. I woke up the next morning. I glanced down at the phone, and I realized I had kicked it off the hook when pacing the day before. I stumbled out of bed, I put the phone back on the receiver, and it rang a second later. And it was my brother, and boy, was he pissed.
i čekao sam i čekao, ali telefon nije zvonio. S obzirom na vremensku razliku, pretpostavio sam: "Okej, izašao je sa prijateljima, pozvaće kasnije." Tada nije bilo mobilnih telefona. Ali nije zvao. I počeo sam da shvatam da nakon razdvojenosti duže od 10 meseci, nisam mu više nedostajao koliko je on meni. Znao sam da će pozvati ujutru, ali ta noć je bila jedna od najtužnijih i najdužih noći u mom životu. Probudio sam se narednog jutra. Bacio sam pogled na telefon i shvatio sam da sam prevrnuo slušalicu kada sam koračao prethodnog dana. Zateturao sam se iz kreveta, povezao sam telefon sa prijemnikom, i zazvonio je sekundu kasnije, bio je to moj brat, i čoveče, koliko je bio ljut.
(Laughter)
(Smeh)
It was the saddest and longest night of his life as well. Now, I tried to explain what happened, but he said, "I don't understand. If you saw I wasn't calling you, why didn't you just pick up the phone and call me?" He was right. Why didn't I call him? I didn't have an answer then. But I do today, and it's a simple one: loneliness.
To je bila najtužnija i najduža noć i njegovog života. Pokušao sam da objasnim šta se dogodilo, ali je rekao: "Ne razumem. Ako si video da te ne zovem, zašto nisi prosto podigao telefon i pozvao me?" Bio je u pravu. Zašto ga nisam pozvao? Nisam imao odgovor tada, ali ga imam danas, i jednostavan je: usamljenost.
Loneliness creates a deep psychological wound, one that distorts our perceptions and scrambles our thinking. It makes us believe that those around us care much less than they actually do. It make us really afraid to reach out, because why set yourself up for rejection and heartache when your heart is already aching more than you can stand? I was in the grips of real loneliness back then, but I was surrounded by people all day, so it never occurred to me. But loneliness is defined purely subjectively. It depends solely on whether you feel emotionally or socially disconnected from those around you. And I did. There is a lot of research on loneliness, and all of it is horrifying. Loneliness won't just make you miserable; it will kill you. I'm not kidding. Chronic loneliness increases your likelihood of an early death by 14 percent. Fourteen percent! Loneliness causes high blood pressure, high cholesterol. It even suppress the functioning of your immune system, making you vulnerable to all kinds of illnesses and diseases. In fact, scientists have concluded that taken together, chronic loneliness poses as significant a risk for your long-term health and longevity as cigarette smoking. Now, cigarette packs come with warnings saying, "This could kill you." But loneliness doesn't. And that's why it's so important that we prioritize our psychological health, that we practice emotional hygiene. Because you can't treat a psychological wound if you don't even know you're injured. Loneliness isn't the only psychological wound that distorts our perceptions and misleads us.
Usamljenost stvara duboku psihičku ranu koja izopačuje naše opažanje i izokreće naše mišljenje. Čini da verujemo da je onima oko nas mnogo manje stalo nego što jeste. Čini da smo uplašeni da posegnemo, jer zašto postaviti sebe za odbacivanje i lomljenje srca kada vaše srce već boluje više nego što možete podneti? Bio sam tada u kandžama prave usamljenosti, ali sam bio okružen ljudima po ceo dan pa mi nikada nije palo na pamet. Ali usamljenost se definiše potpuno subjektivno. U potpunosti zavisi od toga da li se osećate emotivno i socijalno isključeno od onih oko vas. A ja sam se tako osećao. Postoji mnogo istraživanja o usamljenosti i sva su užasavajuća. Usamljenost vas neće samo učiniti nesrećnim, ubiće vas. Ne šalim se. Hronična usamljenost povećava verovatnoću rane smrti za 14 posto. Usamljenost prouzrokuje visok krvni pritisak, visok holesterol. Može čak i da potisne funkcionisanje vašeg imunog sistema, čineći vas podložnim za razne bolesti i oboljenja. U stvari, naučnici su zaključili da opšte uzev, hronična usamljenost predstavlja značajan rizik po vaše dugoročno zdravlje i dužinu života kao pušenje cigareta. Danas paklice cigareta imaju upozorenja koja kažu: "Ovo vas može ubiti." Ali usamljenost to nema. I zato je toliko važno da damo prioritet našem psihičkom zdravlju, da primenjujemo emocionalnu higijenu. Jer ne možete lečiti psihičku ranu ako ni ne znate da ste povređeni. Usamljenost nije jedina psihička rana koja krivi našu percepciju i obmanjuje nas.
Failure does that as well. I once visited a day care center, where I saw three toddlers play with identical plastic toys. You had to slide the red button, and a cute doggie would pop out. One little girl tried pulling the purple button, then pushing it, and then she just sat back and looked at the box with her lower lip trembling. The little boy next to her watched this happen, then turned to his box and burst into tears without even touching it. Meanwhile, another little girl tried everything she could think of until she slid the red button, the cute doggie popped out, and she squealed with delight. So: three toddlers with identical plastic toys, but with very different reactions to failure. The first two toddlers were perfectly capable of sliding a red button. The only thing that prevented them from succeeding was that their mind tricked them into believing they could not. Now, adults get tricked this way as well, all the time. In fact, we all have a default set of feelings and beliefs that gets triggered whenever we encounter frustrations and setbacks.
Neuspeh to takođe čini. Jednom sam posetio jaslice gde sam video kako se tri deteta igraju identičnom plastičnom igračkom. Treba da pomerite crveno dugme i iskače slatka kuca. Jedna devojčica je pokušala da vuče ljubičasto dugme, pa da ga gura, a onda je samo sela i gledala kutiju, dok joj je drhtala donja usna. Dečak pokraj nje je to gledao, zatim se okrenuo ka svojoj kutiji i briznuo u plač a da je nije ni dodirnuo. U međuvremenu, druga devojčica je probala sve čega se setila dok nije pomerila crveno dugme, slatka kuca je iskočila i ona je sa oduševljenjem zacičala. Dakle, tri deteta sa identičnim plastičnim igračkama, ali sa vrlo različitim reakcijama na neuspeh. Prva dva deteta su bila savršeno sposobna da pomere crveno dugme. Jedino što ih je sprečavalo da uspeju je to što ih je um prevario da poveruju da ne mogu. Odrasli takođe stalno bivaju prevareni na ovaj način. Zapravo, svi mi imamo određeni skup osećanja i uverenja koji se aktivira kad god naiđemo na frustracije i zastoje.
Are you aware of how your mind reacts to failure? You need to be. Because if your mind tries to convince you you're incapable of something, and you believe it, then like those two toddlers, you'll begin to feel helpless and you'll stop trying too soon, or you won't even try at all. And then you'll be even more convinced you can't succeed. You see, that's why so many people function below their actual potential. Because somewhere along the way, sometimes a single failure convinced them that they couldn't succeed, and they believed it.
Da li ste svesni toga kako vaš um reaguje na neuspeh? Treba da budete. Jer ako um pokuša da vas ubedi da ste nesposobni za nešto i poverujete mu, tada ćete, kao ona dva deteta, početi da se osećate bespomoćno i prerano ćete prestati da pokušavate, ili nećete uopšte ni pokušati. I tada ćete biti još ubeđeniji da ne možete uspeti. Vidite, zato toliko ljudi funkcioniše ispod svog stvarnog potencijala. Jer negde usput, nekad ih je samo jedan neuspeh ubedio da ne mogu uspeti i oni su u to poverovali.
Once we become convinced of something, it's very difficult to change our mind. I learned that lesson the hard way when I was a teenager with my brother. We were driving with friends down a dark road at night, when a police car stopped us. There had been a robbery in the area and they were looking for suspects. The officer approached the car, and shined his flashlight on the driver, then on my brother in the front seat, and then on me. And his eyes opened wide and he said, "Where have I seen your face before?"
Jednom kada postanemo ubeđeni u nešto, vrlo je teško da se predomislimo. Naučio sam tu lekciju na teži način, kada sam bio tinejdžer, sa svojim bratom. Vozili smo se sa prijateljima noću po mračnom putu, kada nas je zaustavio policijski auto. Desila se pljačka u okolini i tražili su osumnjičene. Policajac je prišao automobilu i osvetlio vozača svojom lampom, zatim mog brata na prednjem sedištu, pa onda mene. Oči su mu se raširile i pitao je: "Gde sam pre video tvoje lice?"
(Laughter)
(Smeh)
And I said, "In the front seat."
Rekao sam: "Na prednjem sedištu."
(Laughter)
(Smeh)
But that made no sense to him whatsoever, so now he thought I was on drugs.
Ali to za njega nije imalo smisla. Mislio je da sam na drogama.
(Laughter)
(Smeh)
So he drags me out of the car, he searches me, he marches me over to the police car, and only when he verified I didn't have a police record, could I show him I had a twin in the front seat. But even as we were driving away, you could see by the look on his face he was convinced that I was getting away with something.
Izvukao me je iz auta, pretresao me, odveo me do policijskog auta, i tek kada je potvrdio da nemam policijski dosije, mogao sam da mu pokažem da imam blizanca koji je na prednjem sedištu. Ali čak i dok smo odlazili, moglo se videti po izrazu njegovog lica da je ubeđen da sam kriv za nešto.
(Laughter)
Naše mišljenje je teško promeniti kada postanemo ubeđeni.
Our mind is hard to change once we become convinced. So it might be very natural to feel demoralized and defeated after you fail. But you cannot allow yourself to become convinced you can't succeed. You have to fight feelings of helplessness. You have to gain control over the situation. And you have to break this kind of negative cycle before it begins.
Zato može biti prirodno osećati se demoralisano i poraženo nakon neuspeha. Ali ne možete dozvoliti sebi da postanete ubeđeni da ne možete uspeti. Morate da se borite protiv osećanja bespomoćnosti. Morate da preuzmete kontrolu nad situacijom. I morate da prekinete takav negativan krug pre nego što otpočne.
[Stop Emotional Bleeding]
Our minds and our feelings -- they're not the trustworthy friends we thought they were. They're more like a really moody friend, who can be totally supportive one minute, and really unpleasant the next. I once worked with this woman who, after 20 years marriage and an extremely ugly divorce, was finally ready for her first date. She had met this guy online, and he seemed nice and he seemed successful, and most importantly, he seemed really into her. So she was very excited, she bought a new dress, and they met at an upscale New York City bar for a drink. Ten minutes into the date, the man stands up and says, "I'm not interested," and walks out. Rejection is extremely painful. The woman was so hurt she couldn't move. All she could do was call a friend. Here's what the friend said: "Well, what do you expect? You have big hips, you have nothing interesting to say. Why would a handsome, successful man like that ever go out with a loser like you?" Shocking, right, that a friend could be so cruel? But it would be much less shocking if I told you it wasn't the friend who said that. It's what the woman said to herself. And that's something we all do, especially after a rejection. We all start thinking of all our faults and all our shortcomings, what we wish we were, what we wish we weren't. We call ourselves names. Maybe not as harshly, but we all do it. And it's interesting that we do, because our self-esteem is already hurting. Why would we want to go and damage it even further? We wouldn't make a physical injury worse on purpose. You wouldn't get a cut on your arm and decide, "Oh! I know -- I'm going to take a knife and see how much deeper I can make it."
Naš um i naša osećanja nisu tako pouzdani prijatelji kao što smo mislili. Oni su više kao ćudljivi prijatelji, koji mogu biti potpuno podržavajući jednog trenutka, a već sledećeg zaista neprijatni. Jednom sam radio sa ženom koja je, nakon 20 godina braka i izuzetno ružnog razvoda, konačno bila spremna za prvi sastanak. Upoznala je nekog tipa na internetu, delovao je fino i uspešno, i što je najvažnije, izgledalo je da je zainteresovan za nju. Bila je vrlo uzbuđena, kupila je novu haljinu, i našli su se u skupljem baru u Njujorku na piću. Deset minuta od početka sastanka, čovek je ustao i rekao: "Nisam zainteresovan" i izašao je napolje. Odbijanje je izuzetno bolno. Žena je bila toliko povređena da nije mogla da se pomeri. Mogla je samo da pozove prijatelja. Evo šta je prijatelj rekao: "Pa, šta očekuješ? Imaš široke kukove, nemaš ništa zanimljivo da kažeš, zašto bi takav zgodan, uspešan muškarac ikada izašao sa gubitnicom kao što si ti?" Šokatno, zar ne, da prijatelj može biti tako okrutan? Ali bilo bi manje šokantno kada bih vam rekao da to nije rekao prijatelj. To je ono što je žena rekla samoj sebi. A to je nešto što svi mi radimo, naročito nakon odbijanja. Počinjemo da razmišljamo o svim našim manama i nedostacima, šta bismo želeli da smo, šta bismo želeli da nismo, vređamo sami sebe. Možda ne tako oštro, ali svi mi to radimo. Zanimljivo je to što radimo, jer naše samopoštovanje već pati. Zašto želimo da ga još više povređujemo? Fizičku povredu ne bismo namerno pogoršali. Ne biste zadobili posekotinu na ruci i odlučili: "O, znam! Uzeću nož da vidim koliko mogu da je produbim."
But we do that with psychological injuries all the time. Why? Because of poor emotional hygiene. Because we don't prioritize our psychological health. We know from dozens of studies that when your self-esteem is lower, you are more vulnerable to stress and to anxiety; that failures and rejections hurt more, and it takes longer to recover from them. So when you get rejected, the first thing you should be doing is to revive your self-esteem, not join Fight Club and beat it into a pulp. When you're in emotional pain, treat yourself with the same compassion you would expect from a truly good friend.
Ali to radimo stalno sa psihičkim povredama. Zašto? Zbog slabe emocionalne higijene. Jer ne dajemo prioritet našem psihičkom zdravlju. Iz gomile studija saznajemo da, kada vam je samopoštovanje niže, podložniji ste stresu i anksioznosti, neuspesi i odbijanja više bole i treba više vremena za oporavljanje od njih. Tako da, kada ste odbijeni, prvo što treba da radite jeste da povratite svoje samopoštovanje, ne da se priključite Borilačkom klubu i pretvorite ga u kašu. Kada preživljavate emotivni bol, tretirajte sebe sa istim saosećanjem koje biste očekivali od dobrog prijatelja.
[Protect Your Self-Esteem]
Treba da uhvatimo naše nezdrave psihičke navike i menjamo ih.
We have to catch our unhealthy psychological habits and change them. And one of unhealthiest and most common is called rumination. To ruminate means to chew over. It's when your boss yells at you or your professor makes you feel stupid in class, or you have big fight with a friend and you just can't stop replaying the scene in your head for days, sometimes for weeks on end. Now, ruminating about upsetting events in this way can easily become a habit, and it's a very costly one, because by spending so much time focused on upsetting and negative thoughts, you are actually putting yourself at significant risk for developing clinical depression, alcoholism, eating disorders, and even cardiovascular disease.
Jedna od najnezdravijih i najčešćih naziva se ruminacija. Ruminirati znači preživati. To je kada vaš šef viče na vas, ili vaš profesor učini da se osećate glupo na času, ili se strašno posvađate sa prijateljem i ne možete danima da prestanete da ponavljate tu scenu u glavi, nekada i nedeljama uzastopno. Ruminacija uznemirujućih događaja tako može lako postati navika, i to vrlo skupa. Jer trošeći toliko vremena sa fokusom na uznemirujuće i negativne misli, zapravo stavljate sebe pod značajan rizik za razvijanje kliničke depresije, alkoholizma, poremećaja ishrane, čak i kardiovaskularnih oboljenja.
The problem is, the urge to ruminate can feel really strong and really important, so it's a difficult habit to stop. I know this for a fact, because a little over a year ago, I developed the habit myself. You see, my twin brother was diagnosed with stage 3 non-Hodgkin's lymphoma. His cancer was extremely aggressive. He had visible tumors all over his body. And he had to start a harsh course of chemotherapy. And I couldn't stop thinking about what he was going through. I couldn't stop thinking about how much he was suffering, even though he never complained, not once. He had this incredibly positive attitude. His psychological health was amazing. I was physically healthy, but psychologically, I was a mess. But I knew what to do. Studies tell us that even a two-minute distraction is sufficient to break the urge to ruminate in that moment. And so each time I had a worrying, upsetting, negative thought, I forced myself to concentrate on something else until the urge passed. And within one week, my whole outlook changed and became more positive and more hopeful.
Problem je to što impuls za ruminacijom može delovati kao vrlo jak i važan, tako da ju je teško zaustaviti. Dobro mi je ovo poznato, jer pre nešto više od godinu dana, i sam sam razvio tu naviku. Vidite, mom bratu je dijagnostikovan treći stadijum Ne-Hodžkinove bolesti. Njegov rak je bio izuzetno agresivan. Imao je vidljive tumore po celom telu. Morao je da započne sa teškom hemoterapijom. A ja nisam mogao da prestanem da mislim o tome kroz šta on prolazi. Nisam mogao da prestanem da mislim o tome koliko on pati, iako se nikada nije žalio, nijednom. Imao je neverovatno pozitivan stav. Njegovo psihičko zdravlje je bilo neverovatno. Ja sam fizički bio zdrav, ali sam psihički bio u haosu. Ali sam znao šta da radim. Istraživanja kažu da je čak i dva minuta odvraćanja pažnje dovoljno za prekidanje impulsa za ruminacijom u tom trenutku. Tako da svaki put kada sam imao zabrinjavajuću, uznemirujuću, negativnu pomisao, primorao bih sebe da se koncentrišem na nešto drugo dok impuls ne prođe. Za nedelju dana, čitava moja perspektiva se izmenila i postala pozitivnija i ispunjenija nadom.
[Battle Negative Thinking]
Nine weeks after he started chemotherapy, my brother had a CAT scan, and I was by his side when he got the results. All the tumors were gone. He still had three more rounds of chemotherapy to go, but we knew he would recover. This picture was taken two weeks ago.
Devet nedelja nakon što je počeo sa hemoterapijom, mom bratu je urađeno snimanje rendgenom i bio sam kraj njega kada je dobio rezultate. Svi tumori su nestali. Imao je pred sobom još tri ture terapije, ali smo znali da će se oporaviti. Ova slika je nastala pre dve nedelje.
By taking action when you're lonely, by changing your responses to failure, by protecting your self-esteem, by battling negative thinking, you won't just heal your psychological wounds, you will build emotional resilience, you will thrive. A hundred years ago, people began practicing personal hygiene, and life expectancy rates rose by over 50 percent in just a matter of decades. I believe our quality of life could rise just as dramatically if we all began practicing emotional hygiene.
Preduzimanjem mera kada ste usamljeni, menjanjem svojih odgovora na neuspeh, štiteći svoje samopoštovanje, boreći se sa negativnim razmišljanjem, nećete samo zalečiti svoje psihičke rane, izgradićete emocionalnu otpornost, razvijaćete se. Pre sto godina, ljudi su počeli da primenjuju ličnu higijenu, i stopa očekivanog životnog veka se povećala za preko 50 procenata za samo nekoliko decenija. Verujem da bi se naš kvalitet života mogao isto tako dramatično povećati ako svi počnemo da primenjujemo emocionalnu higijenu.
Can you imagine what the world would be like if everyone was psychologically healthier? If there were less loneliness and less depression? If people knew how to overcome failure? If they felt better about themselves and more empowered? If they were happier and more fulfilled? I can, because that's the world I want to live in. And that's the world my brother wants to live in as well. And if you just become informed and change a few simple habits, well -- that's the world we can all live in.
Možete li da zamislite kakav bi svet bio kada bi svi bili psihološki zdraviji? Kada bi bilo manje usamljenosti i depresije? Kada bi ljudi znali kako da prevaziđu neuspeh? Kada bi se osećali bolje u svojoj koži i osnaženije? Kada bi bili srećniji i ispunjeniji? Ja mogu, jer je to svet u kome želim da živim, i to je svet u kome i moj brat želi da živi. Ako se samo informišete i promenite nekoliko jednostavnih navika, pa, to je svet u kome svi možemo živeti.
Thank you very much.
Hvala vam mnogo.
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