Namaste. Good morning. I'm very happy to be here in India. And I've been thinking a lot about what I have learned over these last particularly 11 years with V-Day and "The Vagina Monologues," traveling the world, essentially meeting with women and girls across the planet to stop violence against women.
Namaste. Dobro jutro. Zelo vesela sem, da sem danes tukaj v Indiji, veliko sem premišljevala o tem, kar sem se naučila, predvsem v zadnjih enajstih letih, z Dnevom-V in "Monologi vagine", na potovanjih po svetu, ko sem se srečevala z ženskami in deklet iz celega sveta, da bi preprečila nasilje nad ženskami.
What I want to talk about today is this particular cell, or grouping of cells, that is in each and every one of us. And I want to call it the girl cell. And it's in men as well as in women. I want you to imagine that this particular grouping of cells is central to the evolution of our species and the continuation of the human race.
To, o čemer bi rada govorila danes, je določena celica, oziroma skupek celic, ki je v vsakem izmed nas. Rada bi jo poimenovala "dekliška celica". Ta je tako v moških kot v ženskah. Prosim, zamislite si, da je ta skupek celic ključnega pomena za razvoj človeške vrste in preživetje človeške rase.
And I want you imagine that at some point in history a group of powerful people invested in owning and controlling the world understood that the suppression of this particular cell, the oppression of these cells, the reinterpretation of these cells, the undermining of these cells, getting us to believe in the weakness of these cells and the crushing, eradicating, destroying, reducing these cells, basically began the process of killing off the girl cell, which was, by the way, patriarchy.
Zamislite si nek trenutek v zgodovini, ko je skupina vplivnih ljudi razumela, da je potlačitev te določene celice, zatiranje teh celic, ponovna opredelitev teh celic, spodkopavanje teh celic, širjenje miselnosti, da so te celice šibke ter teptanje, izkoreninovanje in uničevanje, omejevanje teh celic v bistvu sprožilo proces uničevanja dekliške celice, ki je, mimogrede, patriarhija.
I want you to imagine that the girl is a chip in the huge macrocosm of collective consciousness. And it is essential to balance, to wisdom and to actually the future of all of us. And then I want you to imagine that this girl cell is compassion, and it's empathy, and it's passion itself, and it's vulnerability, and it's openness, and it's intensity, and it's association, and it's relationship, and it is intuitive.
Zamislite si, da je dekle kot čip v ogromnemu makrokozmosu kolektivne zavesti. In da je bistvena za uravnoteženost, za modrost, in - v bistvu - za našo prihodnost. Prosim, da si predstavljate to celico kot sočutje, kot empatijo in kot samo strast in njeno ranljivost in njeno odprtost in jakost in njeno povezavo in njeno razmerje in to je intuitivno.
And then let's think how compassion informs wisdom, and that vulnerability is our greatest strength, and that emotions have inherent logic, which lead to radical, appropriate, saving action. And then let's remember that we've been taught the exact opposite by the powers that be, that compassion clouds your thinking, that it gets in the way, that vulnerability is weakness, that emotions are not to be trusted, and you're not supposed to take things personally, which is one of my favorites.
Zdaj pomislite na to, kako sočutje pripelje do modrosti in kako je ranljivost naša najmočnejša točka in da imajo čustva svojstveno logiko, ki vodijo v radikalna, ustrezna, odrešujoča dejanja. Zdaj pomislite na to, kako so nas vladajoči učili popolno nasprotje teh stvari, da sočutje vpliva na našo sodbo, da je v napoto, da je ranljivost šibkost, da čustvom ni moč zaupati in da stvari ne bi smeli jemati osebno, kar je ena izmed mojih najljubših.
I think the whole world has essentially been brought up not to be a girl. How do we bring up boys? What does it mean to be a boy? To be a boy really means not to be a girl. To be a man means not to be a girl. To be a woman means not to be a girl. To be strong means not to be a girl. To be a leader means not to be a girl. I actually think that being a girl is so powerful that we've had to train everyone not to be that. (Laughter)
Mislim, da je bil pravzaprav cel svet vzgojen, da ni dekle. Kako vzgajamo fante? Kaj pomeni biti fant? Biti fant v resnici pomeni, da nisi dekle. Biti moški pomeni, da nisi dekle. Biti ženska pomeni, da nisi dekle. Biti močan pomeni, da nisi dekle. Biti vodja pomeni, da nisi dekle. Jaz pa mislim, da je biti dekle nekaj tako mogočnega, da smo vse vzgojili, naj to ne bodo. (smeh)
And I'd also like to say that the irony of course, is that denying girl, suppressing girl, suppressing emotion, refusing feeling has lead thus here. Where we have now come to live in a world where the most extreme forms of violence, the most horrific poverty, genocide, mass rapes, the destruction of the Earth, is completely out of control. And because we have suppressed our girl cells and suppressed our girl-ship, we do not feel what is going on.
Ironično je to, da nas je zanikanje deklet, zatiranje deklet, tlačenje čustev odvračanje občutkov, to, kar nas je pripeljalo sem. Živimo v svetu, kjer najbolj skrajnih oblik nasilja, strahotne revščine, genocida, množičnih posilstev, uničevanja Zemlje sploh ne moremo nadzirati. Ker smo potlačili dekliške celice in potlačili našo dekliškost, se ne zavedamo, kaj se v resnici dogaja.
So, we are not being charged with the adequate response to what is happening. I want to talk a little bit about the Democratic Republic of Congo. For me, it was the turning point of my life. I have spent a lot of time there in the last three years. I feel up to that point I had seen a lot in the world, a lot of violence.
Tako nismo oboroženi za zadosten odziv na trenutna dogajanja. Rada bi na kratko govorila o Demokratični republiki Kongo. Zame je bila to točka preobrata v mojem življenju. Tam sem v zadnjih treh letih preživela veliko časa. Zdi se mi, da sem videla že marsikaj na tem svetu, predvsem veliko nasilja.
I essentially lived in the rape mines of the world for the last 12 years. But the Democratic Republic of Congo really was the turning point in my soul. I went and I spent time in a place called Bukavu in a hospital called the Panzi Hospital, with a doctor who was as close to a saint as any person I've ever met. His name is Dr. Denis Mukwege. In the Congo, for those of you who don't know, there has been a war raging for the last 12 years, a war that has killed nearly six million people. It is estimated that somewhere between 300,000 and 500,000 women have been raped there.
V bistvu sem zadnjih 12 let preživela v središčih posilstev, ampak šele Demoratična republika Kongo je povzročila veliko spremembo v meni. Živela sem v mestu po imenu Bukavu, v bolnišnici Panzi, z zdravnikom, ki je od vseh ljudi, ki jih poznam, najbolj spominjal na svetnika. Njegovo ime je doktor Denis Mukwege. In v Kongu, za tiste, ki ne vejo, zadnjih 12 let divja vojna; vojna, v kateri je umrlo skoraj 6 milijonov ljudi. Po ocenah naj bi bilo nekje med 300,000 in 500,000 žensk žrtev posilstva.
When I spent my first weeks at Panzi hospital I sat with women who sat and lined up every day to tell me their stories. Their stories were so horrific, and so mind-blowing and so on the other side of human existence, that to be perfectly honest with you, I was shattered. And I will tell you that what happened is through that shattering, listening to the stories of eight-year-old girls who had their insides eviscerated, who had guns and bayonets and things shoved inside them so they had holes, literally, inside them where their pee and poop came out of them.
V prvih tednih v bolnišnici Panzi sem sedela z ženskami, ki so se vsak dan usedle in postavile v vrsto, da mi povejo svojo zgodbo. Njihove zgodbe so bile tako pretresljive, tako nepredstavljive in v nasprotju z vsakodnevnimi izkušnjami, da sem bila, če sem povsem iskrena z vami, pretresena. Povedala vam bom, kaj se je zgodilo potem; po tem pretresu, ob poslušanju osemletnih punčk, ki so jim odstranili drobovje, ki so jim v telo porinili puške in bajonete in stvari, tako, da so imele luknje, dobesedno luknje, v sebi, iz katerih sta tekla voda in blato.
Listening to the story of 80-year-old women who were tied to chains and circled, and where groups of men would come and rape them periodically, all in the name of economic exploitation to steal the minerals so the West can have it and profit from them. My mind was so shattered.
Poslušala sem zgodbe 80-letnih žensk, ki so jih zvezali z verigo in obkolili, nato pa so jih skupine moških znova in znova posiljevale, vse v imenu gospodarskega izkoriščanja, da bi ukradli minerale, s katerimi na Zahodu delajo dobiček. Bila sem zelo pretresena.
But what happened for me is that that shattering actually emboldened me in a way I have never been emboldened. That shattering, that opening of my girl cell, that kind of massive breakthrough of my heart allowed me to become more courageous, and braver, and actually more clever than I had been in the past in my life.
Ampak vsa ta pretresenost me je v bistvu ohrabrila, tako, kot me ni ohrabrilo še nič poprej. Ta pretresenost, to odpiranje moje dekliške celice, ta velik premik v mojem čustovanju, mi je omogočil, da sem postala pogumnejša in hrabrejša in v bistvu pametnejša, kot sem bila kadarkoli prej.
I want to say that I think the powers that be know that empire-building is actually -- that feelings get in the way of empire-building. Feelings get in the way of the mass acquisition of the Earth, and excavating the Earth, and destroying things. I remember, for example, when my father, who was very, very violent, used to beat me. And he would actually say, while he was beating me, "Don't you cry. Don't you dare cry." Because my crying somehow exposed his brutality to him. And even in the moment he didn't want to be reminded of what he was doing.
Hočem reči, da mislim, da se vladajoči zavedajo, da je imperializem, da vejo, da so čustva lahko ovira pri grajenju imperija. Čustva so lahko v napoto pri masovnem osvajanju Zemlje, pri izkopavanju Zemlje in pri uničevanju stvari. Spominjam se, na primer, kako me je oče, ki je bil zelo zelo nasilen, kako me je včasih tepel. Med pretepanjem je govoril: "Ne jokaj. Ne drzni si jokati." Zato, ker mu je moje jokanje razkrilo lastno brutalnost. In v trenutku samega početja ni hotel biti opomnjen na to, kar je delal.
I know that we have systematically annihilated the girl cell. And I want to say we've annihilated it in men as well as in women. And I think in some ways we've been much harsher to men in the annihilation of their girl cell. (Applause) I see how boys have been brought up, and I see this across the planet: to be tough, to be hardened, to distance themselves from their tenderness, to not cry. I actually realized once in Kosovo, when I watched a man break down, that bullets are actually hardened tears, that when we don't allow men to have their girl self and have their vulnerability, and have their compassion, and have their hearts, that they become hardened and hurtful and violent.
Vem, da sistematično zatiramo dekliško celico. Hočem reči, zatiramo jo tako v moških kot v ženskah. In mislim, da smo v nekem smislu pri zatiranju dekliške celice še manj prizanesljivejši do moških. (aplavz) Vidim, kako vzgajamo dečke, enako je po celem svetu, da so trdoživi in utrjeni, da se odpovejo svoji nežnost, da ne jočejo. Nekoč na Kosovu, ko sem videla moškega, kako se je zlomil, sem spoznala, da so krogle v bistvu otrdele solze, da kadar moškim ne dovolimo, da obdržijo svojo dekliškost, da obdržijo svojo ranljivost in sočutje in da imajo srce, da postanejo okamneli in škodljivi in nasilni.
And I think we have taught men to be secure when they are insecure, to pretend they know things when they don't know things, or why would we be where we are? To pretend they're not a mess when they are a mess. And I will tell you a very funny story. On my way here on the airplane, I was walking up and down the aisle of the plane. And all these men, literally at least 10 men, were in their little seats watching chick flicks. And they were all alone, and I thought, "This is the secret life of men." (Laughter)
Mislim, da moške učimo, da so gotovi vase, čeprav so v resnici negotovi, da se delajo, da vejo stvari, pa čeprav jih ne vedo. Zakaj bi bili drugače tu, kjer smo? Da se pretvarjajo, da je vse v redu, ko so čisto zmedeni. Povedala vam bom smešno zgodbo. Ko smo leteli sem, sem se sprehajala gor in dol po letalu. In vsi ti moški, najmanj deset jih je bilo, so sedeli v svojih malih sedežih in gledali romantične komedije. Vsi od njih so bili sami in mislila sem si: "Tako izgleda skrivno življenje moških." (smeh)
I've traveled, as I said, to many, many countries, and I've seen, if we do what we do to the girl inside us then obviously it's horrific to think what we do to girls in the world. And we heard from Sunitha yesterday, and Kavita about what we do to girls. But I just want to say that I've met girls with knife wounds and cigarette burns, who are literally being treated like ashtrays. I've seen girls be treated like garbage cans. I've seen girls who were beaten by their mothers and brothers and fathers and uncles. I've seen girls starving themselves to death in America in institutions to look like some idealized version of themselves.
Potovala sem, kot sem omenila, v mnoge države. Pomislila sem, da če tako slabo ravnamo z deklico v sebi, si ne moremo niti predstavljati, kaj počnemo z deklicami po svetu. Včeraj smo slišali Sunitho in Kavito, ki sta govorili o tem. Ampak, hočem samo reči, spoznala sem dekleta z brazgotinami od vbodov in cigaret, s katerimi ravnajo dobesedno kot s pepelniki. Videla sem dekleta, s katerimi ravnajo kot s smetnjaki. Videla sem dekleta, ki jih pretepajo mame, in bratje in očetje in strici. Dekleta, ki se v Ameriki stradajo do smrti, v ustanovah, samo, da bi izgledale kot idealizirane podobe sebe.
I've seen that we cut girls and we control them and we keep them illiterate, or we make them feel bad about being too smart. We silence them. We make them feel guilty for being smart. We get them to behave, to tone it down, not to be too intense. We sell them, we kill them as embryos, we enslave them, we rape them. We are so accustomed to robbing girls of the subject of being the subjects of their lives that we have now actually objectified them and turned them into commodities.
Videla sem, da dekleta obrežemo in kontroliramo in hočemo, da ostanejo nepismene. Ali pa jih zatiramo, če so preveč pametne. Utišamo jih. Hočemo, da se počutijo krive, ker so pametne. Naučimo jih obnašanja, da so umirjenje in zmerne. Prodajamo jih in ubijemo še kot zarodke. Zasužnjimo jih. Posiljujemo jih. Navajeni smo, da oropamo dekleta tistega, kar je za njih najpomembnejše, tako, da jih zdaj obravnamo kot predmete, spreminjamo jih v blago.
The selling of girls is rampant across the planet. And in many places they are worth less than goats and cows. But I also want to talk about the fact that if one in eight people on the planet are girls between the ages of 10 to 24, they are they key, really, in the developing world, as well as in the whole world, to the future of humanity. And if girls are in trouble because they face systematic disadvantages that keep them where society wants them to be, including lack of access to healthcare, education, healthy foods, labor force participation. The burden of all the household tasks usually falls on girls and younger siblings, which ensures that they will never overcome these barriers.
Prekupčevanje z dekleti razsaja po celem planetu. V mnogih krajih so vredne manj od koz in krav. Rada bi omenila tudi dejstvo, da je eden od osmih ljudi na planetu dekle starosti med 10 in 24 let. One so ključnega pomena tako za razvijajoči svet kot za cel svet, za prihodnost človeštva. Če so dekleta v težavah, ker so v slabšem položaju, ki jih omejuje tako, kot družba to hoče, vključno s pomanjkanjem zdravstva, izobrazbe, zdrave hrane, uvajanje prisilnega dela. Breme gospodinjstva ponavadi pade na dekletova ramena, kar jim preprečuje, da bi premagale te ovire.
The state of girls, the condition of girls, will, in my belief -- and that's the girl inside us and the girl in the world -- determine whether the species survives. And what I want to suggest is that, having talked to girls, because I just finished a new book called "I Am an Emotional Creature: The Secret Life of Girls Around the World," I've been talking to girls for five years, and one of the things that I've seen is true everywhere is that the verb that's been enforced on girl is the verb "to please." Girls are trained to please. I want to change the verb. I want us all to change the verb. I want the verb to be "educate," or "activate," or "engage," or "confront," or "defy," or "create." If we teach girls to change the verb we will actually enforce the girl inside us and the girl inside them.
Stanje deklet, počutje deklet bo, po mojem mnenju, govorim o dekletu znotraj nas, in o dekletih po svetu, odločilo, ali bo naša vrsta preživela. In kar bi rada predlagala, je, ker sem ravno končala s svojo novo knjigo z naslovom "Sem čustveno bitje: Skrivno življenje deklet po svetu", z dekleti se pogovarjam že pet let, in eno izmed opažanj drži povsod. In sicer, da je glagol, ki se največkrat vsiljuje dekletom, največkrat glagol "ugoditi." Dekleta so vzgojena, da bi ugajala. Rada bi spremenila ta glagol. Rada bi, da mi vsi spremenimo ta glagol. Rada bi glagol, kot je "izobraziti" ali "aktivirati" ali "zaposliti" ali "soočiti", "kljubovati", "ustvariti". Če naučimo dekleta, da spremenijo glagol, bomo s tem uveljavili dekle v nas in dekle znotraj njih samih.
And I have to now share a few stories of girls I've seen across the planet who have engaged their girl, who have taken on their girl in spite of all the circumstances around them. I know a 14-year-old girl in the Netherlands, for example, who is demanding that she take a boat and go around the entire world by herself.
Z vami bi rada delila nekaj zgodb o dekletih, ki sem jih srečevala, ki so uveljavila svojo dekliškost, ki so to naredila kljub vsem oviram, ki so jih obdajale. Spoznala sem 14-letno dekle z Nizozemske, ki zahteva, da z ladjo sama prepluje ves svet.
There is a teenage girl who just recently went out and knew that she needed 56 stars tattooed on the right side of her face.
Nekje je najstnica, ki je pred kratkim spoznala, da potrebuje 56 zvezd, tetoviranih na desni strani svojega obraza.
There is a girl, Julia Butterfly Hill, who lived for a year in a tree because she wanted to protect the wild oaks.
Tu je tudi dekle, Julia Butterfly Hill, ki je leto dni živela na drevesu, ker je hotela zaščititi divji hrast.
There is a girl who I met 14 years ago in Afghanistan who I have adopted as my daughter because her mother was killed. Her mother was a revolutionary. And this girl, when she was 17 years old, wore a burqa in Afghanistan, and went into the stadiums and documented the atrocities that were going on towards women, underneath her burqa, with a video. And that video became the video that went out all over the world after 9/11 to show what was going on in Afghanistan.
Tu je dekle, ki sem jo spoznala pred 14 leti v Afganistanu, ki sem jo posvojila kot hči, ker je bila njena mama ubita. Njena mama je bila revolucionarka. To dekle je pri sedemnajstih letih v Afganistanu nosilo burko, šla je na stadione in s kamero pod burko posnela vse krutosti, ki so bile storjene ženskam. Ta posnetek je bil predvajan po celemu svetu, po 11. septembru, da bi pokazali, kaj se dogaja v Afganistanu.
I want to talk about Rachel Corrie who was in her teens when she stood in front of an Israeli tank to say, "End the occupation." And she knew she risked death and she was literally gunned down and rolled over by that tank.
Rada bi povedala nekaj o Rachel Corrie, ki je bila najstnica, ko se je postavila pred izraelski tank in govorila "končajte z okupacijo". Vedela je, kakšna so tveganja. Umrla je pod točami krogel in nato je čez njo zapeljal tank.
And I want to talk about a girl that I just met recently in Bukavu, who was impregnated by her rapist. And she was holding her baby. And I asked her if she loved her baby. And she looked into her baby's eyes and she said, "Of course I love my baby. How could I not love my baby? It's my baby and it's full of love."
Rada bi povedala še nekaj o dekletu, ki sem jo spoznala pred kratkim v Bukavu, ki je po posilstvu zanosila. Držala je svojega dojenčka in jaz sem jo vprašala, če ima dojenčka rada. Pogledala je v otrokove oči in rekla, "Seveda ga imam rada. Kako bi lahko neljubila nekaj, kar je moje? To je moj otrok in poln je ljubezni."
The capacity for girls to overcome situations and to move on levels, to me, is mind-blowing. There is a girl named Dorcas, and I just met her in Kenya. Dorcas is 15 years old, and she was trained in self-defense. A few months ago she was picked up on the street by three older men. They kidnapped her, they put her in a car. And through her self-defense, she grabbed their Adam's apples, she punched them in the eyes and she got herself free and out of the car.
Sposobnost deklet, da prebolijo te izkušnje in da se razvijejo, je zame nepredstavljiva. Tu je še dekle po imenu Dorcas. Pred kratkim sem jo spoznala v Keniji. Dorcas je stara petnajst let, naučila se je samoobrambe. Pred nekaj meseci so jo trije starejši moški pobrali na cesti. Ugrabili so jo in jo zaprli v avto. In s samoobrambo jih je zgrabila za adamova jabolka, udarila jih je v očesa, osvobodila se je in pobegnila iz avta.
In Kenya, in August, I went to visit one of the V-Day safe houses for girls, a house we opened seven years ago with an amazing woman named Agnes Pareyio. Agnes was a woman who was cut when she was a little girl, she was female genitally mutilated. And she made a decision as many women do across this planet, that what was done to her would not be enforced and done to other women and girls.
Avgusta v Keniji sem obiskala enega izmed Dan-V zatočišč za dekleta, ki smo ga odprli pred sedmimi leti skupaj z neverjetno žensko Agnes Pareyio. Agnes so obrezali že, ko je bila deklica, bila je ženska, ki so ji pohabili genitalije. Odločila se je, kot mnogo drugih žensk na tem svetu, da se to, kar je bilo storjeno njej, ne sme zgoditi nobeni drugi ženski ali dekletu.
So, for years Agnes walked through the Rift valley. She taught girls what a healthy vagina looked like, and what a mutilated vagina looked like. And in that time she saved many girls. And when we met her we asked her what we could do for her, and she said, "Well, if you got me a Jeep I could get around a lot faster." So, we got her a Jeep. And then she saved 4,500 girls.
Tako je Agnes leta in leta hodila po dolini Rift. Dekleta je učila, kako izgleda zdrava vagina in kako zgleda pohabljena. V tem času je rešila mnogo deklet. Ko smo se srečali, smo jo vprašali, kako ji lahko pomagamo. Rekla je: "No, če mi kupite džip, bom lahko delala hitreje." Tako smo ji kupili džip. Rešila je še 4500 deklet.
And then we asked her, "Okay, what else do you need?" And she said, "Well, now, I need a house." So, seven years ago Agnes built the first V-Day safe house in Narok, Kenya, in the Masai land. And it was a house where girls could run away, they could save their clitoris, they wouldn't be cut, they could go to school. And in the years that Agnes has had the house, she has changed the situation there. She has literally become deputy mayor. She's changed the rules. The whole community has bought in to what she's doing.
Ko smo jo vprašali, kaj še potrebuje, je rekla: "No, zdaj potrebujem hišo." Tako je Agnes pred sedmimi leti zgradilo prvo Dan-V zatočišče v mestu Narok v Keniji, na zemlji plemena Masai. To je bila hiša, kjer so se dekleta lahko skrila, lahko so rešila svoj klitoris, nihče jih ni mogel obrezati, lahko so hodila v šolo. Odkar ima Agnes hišo, je spremenila veliko. Postala je namestnica župana. Spremenila je zakone, vsa skupnost ji stoji ob strani.
When we were there she was doing a ritual where she reconciles girls, who have run away, with their families. And there was a young girl named Jaclyn. Jaclyn was 14 years old and she was in her Masai family and there's a drought in Kenya. So cows are dying, and cows are the most valued possession. And Jaclyn overheard her father talking to an old man about how he was about to sell her for the cows. And she knew that meant she would be cut. She knew that meant she wouldn't go to school. She knew that meant she wouldn't have a future. She knew she would have to marry that old man, and she was 14.
Ko smo bili pri njej, je opravljala ritual, kjer skuša dekleta pobotati z družinami, ki so jih zapustile. Med njimi je bilo mlado dekle Jaclyn. Jaclyn je imela 14 let, živela je v družini Masai. V Keniji je huda suša. Krave umirajo, krave pa so najdragocenejša lastnina. Jaclyn je slučajno slišala očeta, ki je s starejšim moškim razpravljal o tem, da jo bo prodal za krave. Vedela je, da to pomeni, da jo bodo obrezali. Vedela je, da ne bo mogla hoditi v šolo. Vedela je, da to zanjo pomeni konec življenja. Vedela je, da se bo morala s starcem poročiti. Imela je šele 14 let.
So, one afternoon, she'd heard about the safe house, Jaclyn left her father's house and she walked for two days, two days through Masai land. She slept with the hyenas. She hid at night. She imagined her father killing her on one hand, and Mama Agnes greeting her, with the hope that she would greet her when she got to the house. And when she got to the house she was greeted. Agnes took her in, and Agnes loved her, and Agnes supported her for the year. She went to school and she found her voice, and she found her identity, and she found her heart.
Ko je neko popoldne slišala za zatočišče, je Jaclyn zapustila očetovo hišo. Hodila je dva dni, več kot dva dni, čez deželo plemena Masai. Spala je s hijenami in se ponoči skrivala. Predstavljala si je, kako jo oče hoče ubiti, in predstavljala si je, kako jo pozdravlja mama Agnes. Upala je, da jo bodo toplo sprejeli. Ko je prišla do zatočišča, je bila dobrodošla. Agnes jo je sprejela in Agnes jo je vzljubila. Agnes je zanjo skrbela celo leto. Šla je v šolo in našla svoj glas, našla je samo sebe in našla je svoje srce.
Then, her time was ready when she had to go back to talk to her father about the reconciliation, after a year. I had the privilege of being in the hut when she was reunited with her father and reconciled. In that hut, we walked in, and her father and his four wives were sitting there, and her sisters who had just returned because they had all fled when she had fled, and her primary mother, who had been beaten in standing up for her with the elders. When her father saw her and saw who she had become, in her full girl self, he threw his arms around her and broke down crying. He said, "You are beautiful. You have grown into a gorgeous woman. We will not cut you. And I give you my word, here and now, that we will not cut your sisters either."
Potem je prišel čas, ko je morala domov in se pobotati z očetom, ki ga ni videla eno leto. Imela sem to srečo, da sem bila v koči, ko sta se oče in hči ponovno srečala. Ko smo stopili v kočo, so oče in njegove štiri žene sedeli za mizo. Tam so bile njene sestre, ki so se pravkar vrnile; pobegnile so namreč, ko je pobegnila ona. Videla je mamo, ki je bila pretepena, ker se je pri starešinah postavila zanjo. Ko jo je oče zagledal in videl, kaj je postala, v svoji polni dekliškosti, se ji je vrgel okoli vratu, zlomil se je in začel jokati. Rekel je: "Lepa si, zrasla si v prekrasno žensko. Ne bomo te obrezali. Obljubam ti, tu in zdaj, da tudi tvojih sester ne bomo obrezali."
And what she said to him was, "You were willing to sell me for four cows, and a calf and some blankets. But I promise you, now that I will be educated I will always take care of you, and I will come back and I will build you a house. And I will be in your corner for the rest of your life."
In ona mu je odgovorila: "Hotel si me prodati za štiri krave, tele in nekaj odej. Ampak, obljubljam ti, ko bom končala šolo, bom vedno skrbela zate, vrnila se bom in ti zgradila hišo. Pri tebi bom živela do konca tvojega življenja."
For me, that is the power of girls. And that is the power of transformation. I want to close today with a new piece from my book. And I want to do it tonight for the girl in everybody here. And I want to do it for Sunitha. And I want to do it for the girls that Sunitha talked about yesterday, the girls who survive, the girls who can become somebody else. But I really want to do it for each and every person here, to value the girl in us, to value the part that cries, to value the part that's emotional, to value the part that's vulnerable, to understand that's where the future lies.
Zame to pooseblja moč deklet. To je tudi moč preobrazbe. Rada bi zaključila z odlomkom iz moje knjige. To bom nocoj naredila za dekle v vsakemu izmed nas. To bom naredila za Sunitho in za dekleta, o katerih je Sunitha govorila včeraj, dekleta, ki preživijo, dekleta, ki lahko postanejo nekaj boljšega. Predvsem bi to rada naredila za vse nas, da bomo cenili dekle v nas, da bomo cenili delček nas, ki je sposoben jokati, ki je čustven, ki je ranljiv, da bomo razumeli, kaj nas čaka v prihodnosti.
This is called "I'm An Emotional Creature." And it happened because I met a girl in Watts, L.A. I was asking girls if they like being a girl, and all the girls were like, "No, I hate it. I can't stand it. It's all bad. My brothers get everything." And this girl just sat up and went, "I love being a girl. I'm an emotional creature!" (Laughter) This is for her:
Imenuje se "Sem čustveno bitje." Nastalo je, ko sem srečala dekle iz mesta Watss v LA. Spraševala sem dekleta, če jim je všeč, da so dekleta in vse so rekle. "Ne, sovražim to, ne prenesem tega. Vse je slabše. Mojim bratom je veliko lažje." In to dekle je vstalo in reklo: "Rada sem dekle. Sem čustveno bitje!" (smeh) To je zanjo.
I love being a girl. I can feel what you're feeling as you're feeling inside the feeling before. I am an emotional creature. Things do not come to me as intellectual theories or hard-pressed ideas. They pulse through my organs and legs and burn up my ears. Oh, I know when your girlfriend's really pissed off, even though she appears to give you what you want. I know when a storm is coming. I can feel the invisible stirrings in the air. I can tell you he won't call back. It's a vibe I share.
Rada sem dekle. Čutim to, kar čutiš ti, kar čutiš znotraj in kar si čutil prej. Sem čustveno bitje. Stvari ne dojemam zgolj kot intelektualne teorije ali kot izrabljene ideje. Utripajo skozi moje organe in noge in pordijo mi ušesa. Ah, vem kako je, ko je tvoja punca jezna, čeprav se zdi, da ugodi tvojim željam. Vem, kdaj se bliža vihar. Čutim nevidna vrtinčenja v zraku. Lahko ti povem, da ne bo klical. To čutim v zraku.
I am an emotional creature. I love that I do not take things lightly. Everything is intense to me, the way I walk in the street, the way my momma wakes me up, the way it's unbearable when I lose, the way I hear bad news.
Sem čustveno bitje. Všeč mi je, da se me stvari dotaknejo. Vse dojemam močno. Način, kako hodim po cesti, kako me mama zjutraj zbudi, kako je grozno, kadar izgubim, kako je, ko slišim slabo novico.
I am an emotional creature. I am connected to everything and everyone. I was born like that. Don't you say all negative that it's only only a teenage thing, or it's only because I'm a girl. These feelings make me better. They make me present. They make me ready. They make me strong.
Sem čustveno bitje. Povezana sem z vsakim in vsem. Takšna sem se rodila. Ne bodite tako negativni, rekoč, da je to samo najstniška faza ali zaradi tega, ker sem dekle. Ta čustva me naredijo boljšo. Naredijo me živo. Naredijo me pripravljeno. Močno.
I am an emotional creature. There is a particular way of knowing. It's like the older women somehow forgot. I rejoice that it's still in my body. Oh, I know when the coconut's about to fall. I know we have pushed the Earth too far. I know my father isn't coming back, and that no one's prepared for the fire. I know that lipstick means more than show, and boys are super insecure, and so-called terrorists are made, not born. I know that one kiss could take away all my decision-making ability. (Laughter) And you know what? Sometimes it should. This is not extreme. It's a girl thing, what we would all be if the big door inside us flew open.
Sem čustveno bitje. To je edinstven način vedenja, zdi se, kot da ga starejše ženske pozabijo. Veseli me, da je še vedno v mojem telesu. Ah, vem, kdaj je kokos tik pred tem, da pade. Vem, da smo Zemljo gnali predaleč. Vem, da se moj oče ne bo vrnil in da nihče ni pripravljen na ogenj. Vem, da šminka pomeni več kot videz in da so fantje strašno negotovi in da se teroristi ne rodijo, ampak to postanejo. Vem, da mi lahko en sam poljub vzame vso možnost presoje. (smeh) In veste kaj? Včasih tako mora biti. To ni skrajnost. To je dekliška stvar. To smo lahko vsi, če pustimo, da se vrata v nas na stežaj odprejo.
Don't tell me not to cry, to calm it down, not to be so extreme, to be reasonable. I am an emotional creature. It's how the earth got made, how the wind continues to pollinate. You don't tell the Atlantic Ocean to behave. I am an emotional creature. Why would you want to shut me down or turn me off? I am your remaining memory. I can take you back. Nothing's been diluted. Nothing's leaked out. I love, hear me, I love that I can feel the feelings inside you, even if they stop my life, even if they break my heart, even if they take me off track, they make me responsible.
Ne govori mi, naj ne jočem, naj se pomirim, naj ne pretiravam, naj bom razumna. Sem čustveno bitje. Tako se je rodil svet in tako veter še naprej oprašuje. Nikoli ne boš rekel Atlantiku, naj se lepo obnaša. Sem čustveno bitje. Zakaj me hočeš utišati ali ugasniti? Jaz sem tvoj živi spomin. Lahko te vrnem nazaj. Nič ni zvodenelo. Nič se ni porazgubilo. Ljubim, poslušaj me, ljubim, da lahko čutim čustva, ki so v tebi, pa čeprav tako vplivajo name, pa čeprav mi zlomijo srce, tudi, če me speljejo na stranpota, me naredijo bolj odgovorno.
I am an emotional, I am an emotional, incondotional, devotional creature. And I love, hear me, I love, love, love being a girl. Can you say it with me? I love, I love, love, love being a girl! Thank you very much. (Applause)
Sem čustveno, sem čustveno, brezpogojno, vdano bitje. In rada, poslušajte me, rada, rada, rada sem dekle. Lahko to ponovite z mano? Rada, rada, rada, rada sem dekle! Najlepša hvala. (aplavz)