A human child is born, and for quite a long time is a consumer. It cannot be consciously a contributor. It is helpless. It doesn't know how to survive, even though it is endowed with an instinct to survive. It needs the help of mother, or a foster mother, to survive. It can't afford to doubt the person who tends the child. It has to totally surrender, as one surrenders to an anesthesiologist.
Ljudsko dijete se rađa i dugo je vremena potrošač. Ne može svjesno pridonositi. Bespomoćno je. Čak ne zna ni kako preživjeti, iako je obdareno nagonom za preživljavanje. Potrebna mu je pomoć majke, ili pomajke, da preživi. Ne može si priuštiti da sumnja u osobu koja se brine za njega. Mora se u potpunosti predati baš kao što se netko predaje anesteziologu.
It has to totally surrender. That implies a lot of trust. That implies the trusted person won't violate the trust. As the child grows, it begins to discover that the person trusted is violating the trust. It doesn't know even the word "violation." Therefore, it has to blame itself, a wordless blame, which is more difficult to really resolve -- the wordless self-blame.
Prepustiti se u potpunosti. To implicira mnogo povjerenja. Implicira i da osoba kojoj vjeruje neće izdati to povjerenje. Kako dijete raste, počinje otkrivati da ta osoba iskorištava to povjerenje. Dijete još ni ne zna za riječ iskorištavati. Prema tome, krivi samo sebe. Nijema krivnja, što ju čini još težom za razriješiti, neizrečen osjećaj krivnje.
As the child grows to become an adult: so far, it has been a consumer, but the growth of a human being lies in his or her capacity to contribute, to be a contributor. One cannot contribute unless one feels secure, one feels big, one feels: I have enough.
Dijete odrasta i dosad je bilo potrošač, ali razvoj ljudskog bića leži u njegovoj mogućnosti da doprinosi, da doprinosi. Ne možemo pridonositi ako se ne osjećamo sigurno. Ako se netko osjeća snažnim, znači da osjeća: Imam dovoljno.
To be compassionate is not a joke. It's not that simple. One has to discover a certain bigness in oneself. That bigness should be centered on oneself, not in terms of money, not in terms of power you wield, not in terms of any status that you can command in the society, but it should be centered on oneself. The self: you are self-aware. On that self, it should be centered -- a bigness, a wholeness. Otherwise, compassion is just a word and a dream.
Suosjećati, to nije šala. Nije jednostavno. Pojedinac mora otkriti određenu veličinu u sebi. Ta veličina bi trebala biti usredotočena na samog pojedinca, ne u smislu novaca, ne u smislu posjedovanja moći, niti u smislu nekog statusa koji se zauzima u društvu, nego ju treba usredotočiti na samog sebe. Na sebe, znači, biti svjestan sebe. Na to sebe treba biti usredotočen, na tu potpunost, veličinu, cjelovitost, inače je suosjećanje samo riječ i samo san.
You can be compassionate occasionally, more moved by empathy than by compassion. Thank God we are empathetic. When somebody's in pain, we pick up the pain.
Možemo suosjećati s vremena na vrijeme, ali to je više stvar empatije nego suosjećanja. Hvala Bogu da smo empatični. Kada netko pati, osjećamo njegovu bol.
In a Wimbledon final match, these two guys fight it out. Each one has got two games. It can be anybody's game. What they have sweated so far has no meaning. One person wins. The tennis etiquette is, both the players have to come to the net and shake hands. The winner boxes the air and kisses the ground, throws his shirt as though somebody is waiting for it. (Laughter) And this guy has to come to the net. When he comes to the net, you see, his whole face changes. It looks as though he's wishing that he didn't win. Why? Empathy.
U Wimbledonu, u završnom teniskom meču, imamo dvojicu koja se bore međusobno. Svaki igra dvije igre. To može biti svačija igra. Ono što su ostvarili dosad nije važno. Jedna osoba pobjeđuje. Teniski bonton nalaže da oba igrača moraju doći do mreže i pružiti si ruke. Pobjednik udara rukama kroz zrak i ljubi tlo, baca svoju majicu kao da netko čeka da ju uhvati. (Smijeh) Taj isti igrač mora doći do mreže. Kada dođe tamo, vidite, cijelo lice mu se promijeni. Izgleda kao da mu je žao što je pobijedio. Zašto? Empatija.
That's human heart. No human heart is denied of that empathy. No religion can demolish that by indoctrination. No culture, no nation and nationalism -- nothing can touch it because it is empathy. And that capacity to empathize is the window through which you reach out to people, you do something that makes a difference in somebody's life -- even words, even time.
Takvo je ljudsko srce. Nijedno ljudsko srce nije lišeno te empatije. Nijedna religija ju ne može uništiti svojom doktrinom. Nijedna kultura, nacija, nacionalizam ne može joj naštetiti, jer je to empatija. A ta sposobnost empatije je zapravo prozor kroz koji možemo dirnuti ljude, učiniti nešto što će promijeniti nečiji život. Čak ni riječi, ni vrijeme.
Compassion is not defined in one form. There's no Indian compassion. There's no American compassion. It transcends nation, the gender, the age. Why? Because it is there in everybody. It's experienced by people occasionally.
Suosjećanje se ne može definirati jednom definicijom. Ne postoji indijska suosjećajnost. Ne postoji američka suosjećajnost. Ona nadilazi nacije, spol, dob. Zašto? Zato što postoji u svakome. Ljudi to ponekad iskuse.
Then this occasional compassion, we are not talking about -- it will never remain occasional. By mandate, you cannot make a person compassionate. You can't say, "Please love me." Love is something you discover. It's not an action, but in the English language, it is also an action. I will come to it later.
Onda i ta povremena suosjećajnost o kojoj ne pričamo. Nikada neće biti samo povremena. Ne možete učiniti osobu suosjećajnom nalogom. Ne možete reći: „Molim vas, volite me.“ Ljubav je nešto što se otkriva. To nije radnja, iako u engleskom jeziku ima status radnje, na to ću se još vratiti.
So one has got to discover a certain wholeness. I am going to cite the possibility of being whole, which is within our experience, everybody's experience. In spite of a very tragic life, one is happy in moments which are very few and far between. And the one who is happy, even for a slapstick joke, accepts himself and also the scheme of things in which one finds oneself.
Dakle, pojedinac mora otkriti određenu cjelovitost. Navest ću mogućnost bivanja cjelovitim koja je unutar našeg iskustva, zapravo svačijeg iskustva. Čak i ako netko ima tragičan život, ipak je sretan u rijetkim trenucima. Onaj koji je sretan, čak i zbog jeftinih šala, prihvaća sebe i shemu situacije u kojoj se nalazi.
That means the whole universe, known things and unknown things. All of them are totally accepted because you discover your wholeness in yourself. The subject -- "me" -- and the object -- the scheme of things -- fuse into oneness, an experience nobody can say, "I am denied of," an experience common to all and sundry.
To znači cijeli svemir, sve poznate i nepoznate stvari. Sve to je u potpunosti prihvaćeno zato što otkrivamo cjelovitost u samom sebi. Subjekt, ja, i objekt, shema svih stvari, spajaju se u jedinstvo, i to je iskustvo za koje nitko ne može reći: „Nije mi dopušteno to iskusiti,“ dakle iskustvo zajedničko svima, čak i različitima.
That experience confirms that, in spite of all your limitations -- all your wants, desires, unfulfilled, and the credit cards and layoffs and, finally, baldness -- you can be happy. But the extension of the logic is that you don't need to fulfill your desire to be happy. You are the very happiness, the wholeness that you want to be.
To iskustvo potvrđuje da, usprkos svim našim granicama, željama, neispunjenim težnjama, kreditnim karticama, otkazima i, na kraju, ćelavosti, možemo biti sretni. Ali važno je i reći da ne moramo ispuniti svoje težnje da bismo bili sretni. Mi smo sama sreća, cjelovitost koju želimo postići.
There's no choice in this: that only confirms the reality that the wholeness cannot be different from you, cannot be minus you. It has got to be you. You cannot be a part of wholeness and still be whole. Your moment of happiness reveals that reality, that realization, that recognition: "Maybe I am the whole. Maybe the swami is right.
Tu nema izbora. To samo potvrđuje da ta cjelovitost ne može biti drukčija od nas, ne može opstati bez nas. Mora biti isto što smo i mi sami. Ne možete biti dio cjeline, a biti cijeli sami. Vaš trenutak sreće otkriva tu stvarnost, tu spoznaju i saznanje. Možda sam ja stvarno cjelina. Možda je swami u pravu.
Maybe the swami is right." You start your new life. Then everything becomes meaningful. I have no more reason to blame myself. If one has to blame oneself, one has a million reasons plus many. But if I say, in spite of my body being limited -- if it is black it is not white, if it is white it is not black: body is limited any which way you look at it. Limited.
Možda je swami u pravu. Počinjete svoj novi život. I tada sve ima smisla. Nemam više razloga kriviti samog sebe. Kad netko krivi samog sebe, onda nalazi milijun razloga za to. Ako kaže da mu je tijelo ograničeno, ako je crno, a ne bijelo, ako je bijelo, a ne crno, tijelo je ograničeno kako god da gledate. Ograničeno.
Your knowledge is limited, health is limited, and power is therefore limited, and the cheerfulness is going to be limited. Compassion is going to be limited. Everything is going to be limitless. You cannot command compassion unless you become limitless, and nobody can become limitless, either you are or you are not. Period. And there is no way of your being not limitless too.
Znanje je ograničeno, zdravlje je ograničeno, dakle i moć je ograničena, a onda će i veselje biti ograničeno. Suosjećajnost će biti ograničena. Sve će biti bez granica. Ne možete naređivati suosjećajnosti ako ne postanete bezgranični, a nitko ne može postati bezgraničan, bez obzira na sve. Točka. Nema šanse da postanete bezgranični.
Your own experience reveals, in spite of all limitations, you are the whole. And the wholeness is the reality of you when you relate to the world. It is love first. When you relate to the world, the dynamic manifestation of the wholeness is, what we say, love. And itself becomes compassion if the object that you relate to evokes that emotion. Then that again transforms into giving, into sharing. You express yourself because you have compassion.
Vaše iskustvo otkriva da ste, usprkos svim granicama, jedna cjelina. A cjelina je vaše stvarno stanje kad se odnosite prema svijetu. To je najprije ljubav. Kad se odnosite prema svijetu, dinamična manifestacija vaše cjeline je, zapravo, ljubav. To postaje suosjećanje ako objekt prema kojem se odnosite probudi tu emociju. A to se opet pretvori u davanje, u dijeljenje. Izražavate se jer ste suosjećajni.
To discover compassion, you need to be compassionate. To discover the capacity to give and share, you need to be giving and sharing. There is no shortcut: it is like swimming by swimming. You learn swimming by swimming. You cannot learn swimming on a foam mattress and enter into water. (Laughter) You learn swimming by swimming. You learn cycling by cycling. You learn cooking by cooking, having some sympathetic people around you to eat what you cook. (Laughter)
Da biste otkrili suosjećanje, morate biti suosjećajni. Da biste otkrili mogućnost davanja i dijeljenja, morate davati i dijeliti. Nema prečice. To je kao da plivate plivanjem. Plivanje ćete naučiti samo plivanjem. Ne možete naučiti plivati na vodenom krevetu i onda ući u vodu. (Smijeh) Učite plivati tako da plivate. Učite voziti bicikl tako da ga vozite. Da biste naučili kuhati, morate kuhati i imate drage ljude oko sebe koji će jesti ono što skuhate. (Smijeh)
And, therefore, what I say, you have to fake it and make it. (Laughter) You need to. My predecessor meant that. You have to act it out. You have to act compassionately.
Dakle, ono što pokušavam reći je da se morate pretvarati dok ne uspijete. (Smijeh) Morate. Moj prethodnik je to isto mislio. Morate to odglumiti. Morate se ponašati suosjećajno.
There is no verb for compassion, but you have an adverb for compassion. That's interesting to me. You act compassionately. But then, how to act compassionately if you don't have compassion? That is where you fake. You fake it and make it. This is the mantra of the United States of America. (Laughter)
U engleskom jeziku ne postoji glagol suosjećati, ali postoji prilog. Meni je to zanimljivo. Ponašate se suosjećajno. Ali kako se ponašati suosjećajno ako niste suosjećajni? Tada morate glumiti. Glumiti dok ne uspijete.To je mantra Sjedinjenih Američkih Država. (Smijeh)
You fake it and make it. You act compassionately as though you have compassion: grind your teeth, take all the support system. If you know how to pray, pray. Ask for compassion. Let me act compassionately. Do it. You'll discover compassion and also slowly a relative compassion, and slowly, perhaps if you get the right teaching, you'll discover compassion is a dynamic manifestation of the reality of yourself, which is oneness, wholeness, and that's what you are.
Pretvarate se dok ne uspijete. Ponašate se suosjećajno kao da i jeste takvi, stisnete zube, skupite svu hrabrost, ako znate moliti, onda molite. Zatražite suosjećajnost. Dajte mi da budem suosjećajan. Napravite to. Otkrit ćete suosjećajnost, bit će to polako nekakva relativna suosjećajnost, i onda poslije polako, možda ako dobijete dobru obuku, shvatit ćete da je suosjećajnost dinamična manifestacija vašeg pravog stanja, a to je jedinstvo, cjelovitost, ono što zaista jeste.
With these words, thank you very much. (Applause)
S ovim riječima zahvaljujem se svima. (Pljesak)